Did You Ever Listen To Stories In Childhood

Do you remember sitting, listening to stories of Christmas and all the tales of old and new? How fun it is as a child to hear ones parent read stories. The very voice of the parent comforts the child. most children that is unless they have been abused by a parent.

Children are conforted by love. Abuse produces the fruits of fear, self doubt, lack of trust, self denial. It doesn't allow a child to react or respond to a situation with the ability to react correct. One sees it in the classroom when reading children's stories. The most enduring stories can evoke a nervous or anxiety filled emotion when a child has been abused. The parent wanting more than the child is capable of producing causes mixed emotions within the child.

However, on the positive side. Parents who choose to love and nut urge their child will find that children will be comfortable being loved, hugged, and will allow the parent to nurture and meet their needs. As a educator this is one of the most exciting times I find during the year. The weather permits for greater bonding between parent and child. I find that children who grow up listening to story times and parents reading to them, have a greater tendency to become better readers. The better the listening skills the greater the development of reading skill. Studies have proven the corrilation between the parent and child relationship in reading and personal contact create a significant increase in intelligence or IQ. 

That's why this is one of my favorite time to teach. I loved being called out of the office to sub of a teacher. Why? I would be able to see the joy of the students and the excitement for life. We would get to talk about many things that are happening in their lives at this time of year, One of my favorite things to offer parents during this season is book sales. Our school would offer a variety of books for sale seasonal and non-seasonal. The parents would be able to come to school without their children and shop for books.  The books that offered stuffed animals or integrative toys was to help the story come to life in a child. Offering greater creative it's and delopment of the brain.  The one thing I always tried to encourage parent to do is to go beyond the stuffed animal or toy and see how pouch of the story the child understands. Did they get the meaning of the story? Can they draw a picure? Can they read the story to their stuffed animal. 

Play acting is an important part of growing up. Long before I new I wanted to become a teacher I would take all my stuffed animals and dolls and create lessons for them. I would create the lesson plan and implement it. It was lots of fun. I remember I had one teacher who was always yelling at all the children. I don't think I was conscience of it until my dad hear me yelling at the children in my pretend classroom. He walked over to me and asked me why I was yelling? I explained that was hold my teacher talked in class. It was the first break of the year. He immediately made an appointment with the school. Since their were no other teachers of the same grade, I had to stay in the classroom and finish out the year, however the principal was aware and her treatment of all the children changed. That's parenting! One does the best one can with what one knows.

I think that's why I fell in love with books! It's an escape to learn things only one can imagine. Wishing you a the best this holiday season. Much time reading with your children.

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Gossip or Dog?

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls,

I awoke this morning with the usual desire to attend church. Have you ever felt that way? The funny things about attending church is something I loved to do. We all love things we can't have. The book the "Holy" book, the one I based my life on since childhood has finally left me feeling a little over questioned on my integrity level. How many of you Proverbs 31 women have been questioned about the intention in your heart, or asked to make someone else better than you.  As Christian "Saints" we are called. I decided that sainthood was a little to costly for me, therefore I am okay with the choice of sin I have. I gossip. I talk. I tell. I tell you the reader the pain I feel. The abuse I have sustained am substantiating. My failure, my hopes, my dreams, the purposeful intent of one person to take it upon himself to sabotage God's purpose for my life. Therefore, let start by asking you to do what I have been asked to do for others my whole life. Pray for me.

Gossip:  Defined by Urban Dictionary as: Exaggeration or fabrication of a story, regarding somebody other than the tale bearer, in the absence of this person who is being discussed - for the malicious purpose of demeaning, slandering or tarnishing this person's reputation.

"I used to be good friends with this bitch for like 6 years, and when we had a fallout, she went around gossiping all of my personal shit to people behind my back."

Confession: "I use to love attending church and serving until I got pit bull dogged." That's what I was told it was called. 

Discovering the dog of a person as a servant is a little taxing on the spirit, lets not talk about how it affects the family life or, the finances. It is when God opens the years of "His" servant in a way, that even that servant can't speak. The pain is greater than the ability to cope with the desire to fight like a man and dick the dog out! Is something I didn't know how to do. 

The truth is How does a Proverbs 31 woman deal with it. She ask for Grace constantly. For me it was a realization that my servant-hood was official over. Here is the deal, you serve because you are called and then you resign because you are called. You don't tell others how you feel because it will not produce good fruit. Now I am a gossip and not producing good fruit anyway, therefore why not talk about it. Maybe now it will all be prayed over by others and "Grace" will exist once again. 

A women who has been beaten is not exactly going to go out and become the life of the party, therefore I am not sure what God wants for me. Praying for a home, food enough to eat, a place to lay my head that isn't filled with others desires, but God's will for my own life. How does one re-discover this? A business that would support me financially and help my children get out of debt because their mother was having problems with their dad and asked for mediation and returned answer the attorney he wanted a divorce. This was not the answer I expected after 38 years of being together. Not exactly up for serving anyone other than making the "God of Finances" responsible for the new debt she has that she never wanted. Did we talk about what was wrong? Did he ask? NO! Divorce was all he wanted. That should have been all he got. That's what I got. I could be one of those bitter women who whine and complain. That is also who I am Not.

Convict me of the sin, placed on my heart to get out of debt, not be mind controlled by those that love the dog more than the truth. When you saved those that "want" get me the hell out of the place. I am in and help me cope with the new life, I have. The life I didn't choose in the first place, but he wanted for me.  I refuse to believe a God I served can make a Proverbs 31 woman less than a man who choose the divorce in the first place.  I refuse to take responsibilities for the things forced upon me. And the desires of others that are untrue to who I am! Take this as a prayer request if you wish. I was brought up to believe that God would not give you more than you can handle, I say He has. 

I know I didn't abuse my family, and I know I am an outspoken women who believes in Righteousness, Truth and the Freedom this county offer from "Religious Prescription" okay maybe I should say Persecution. "Xanics" so you don't panic,  I think that is what the drug is called is not the solution. Lord take me off the false telephone wire and the operator of abuse and send me the relationships you promised so we can all begin to heal. From the abuse. To tell you the truth, I learned the operator and telephone wire in high school and the perv listening was arrested those years plus four other lost their life. Help! I didn't want that for anyone! Not my children, not "His" children. It should be about peace, love understanding and forgiveness shouldn't it? What about GRACE?

Before you convict me of sin, Convict the "Pitbull" on how abusive he has been in my life. Convict the person who entered who shouldn't have. Convict the person who stood by and watched the isolation that came from it, the financial crises and the emotional sadness. When you find that one then lets talk. When you tell him what he did and created let's talk. Till then, convict him of the sin you have placed in my being. Somewhere, a merciless world is not of a world filled with the "Lord', you told me to trust to pray with out ceasing. To pray for all those who had prayer request. I did, look where I am. Now it is your turn to pray for me. 

I walked away from the abuse, "I leaved and cleaved", help me live a life that is free from mental, physical, and spiritual abuse. Help me, help others. By serving in my business, it is a service based business, it never made the money of millionaires. Not a church planting business, that was what the dog wanted. I am not that type of woman, wasn't in my childhood, wasn't in my youth, wasn't in my teens, wasn't in my adulthood. Therefore, changes are I won't be that in my old age. I do believe there is a place for all things.

What happens to a Proverbs 31 woman after divorce ? Is this really God's best plan for me?