Raising Children

Raising Children

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

I loved raising my children and the children of others in my neighborhood with scripture! There is no doubt in my mind that they learned the power of the "Lord". I was able to teach both female and males the importance a life filled with purpose.  I was thinking of the generation that grew up with "What would Jesus Do?"

What would Jesus do if people what "Him" to be a vessel?  What type of Vessel would he have choosen?

As a women I once asked a Pastors wife to have women choose a stronger vessel.  I know it sounds silly, but we always love and enjoy flowers! Flowers are put in glass vessels....here are some of my thoughts.

I have vision of Jesus in the court yard! He throw over the tables in angry. More like righteous vindication for His "Father". Matt:21:12  Where men trying to make "Jesus" a vessel? If this was true, let's say for the sake of this story it was, what type of vessel would he be?

Glass? Metal? Silver? Goal?  I think that he would be the strongest possible vessel he could. I too think that Jesus would want that for women. I don' believe he would want women to just spinal their life away, or be used as a glass vessel always becoming Frey. I think he would help woman not be used by men as he taught Mary. Our vessels are to be respected. There is a difference between "broken" and glass being broken.  Therefore, there is a difference between "frey" and "broken".

Broken if we look up this word in the bible, then we have three verses. Matt. 21:44, John 10:35, 1 Corn11:24  if you look at a dictionary it is defined as "Something / Someone that is good in a particular context that eclipse second place. The second definition I found and thought it interesting. Under (Games) A games object or facility that is to good to excise. It is so powerful that it is unbalancing and hence breaks the game. Every winning player has to use this to be competitive.

Scripturally, there are ways that God calls "His" woman to be dressed, to behave.  The world in business wants women to dress and behave another way. Church wants woman to act and behave a certain way.  What happens when everyone throws in their lots? We all get hurt!

When the child within you gets hurt Because "The Lord" choose this for you and your a woman how do you heal?  What happens if you get hurt in the church that you were bringing up your own children? You become a child again with your own children and have to heal the child within you.  What happens if you get hurt in the church that you were bringing up your own children? How do you do that?  You asl yourself...What would Jesus do?  Would he have tolerated having to become a child again, in order to live a life with "His" family?  Then I say why would a woman have to become a child again and have to life with her family of her youth? Cling on to the truth of what she grew up with for some it is the attitudes for others it is WWJD!

Is it a double standard?  This is the question I was asking when we make a woman a vessel of glass?

What would Jesus do?  What would Jesus have wanted for that woman?

Who Has Control of Your Ovaries? (Daughterhood)

In 1979 I was married to the man I had been dating since the age of fifteen.  I laugh not really, I had known him since that age but made him wait to date me for 2 (two) painful years. Were they really painful?  From his point of view yes, from my point of view no.  I wasn't old enough to date a man who was five (5) years older than me.  Was I prejudice...certainly not.  I was definitely wise enough to know I was not mature enough to date such a man. Yes, I saw him as a man.  It took time to get to know him.  What does that have to do with this story....well in finding someone Jesus want for you it takes time, prayer and knowing if he is a man of good character.  That is what it took that then twenty (20) year old to prove to me.  That he also had a firm foundation. During those two (2) years this man who was then a college student and teachers aide at the high school I attended was allowed certain things.

1. He could occasionally allowed to drive me home.

2. He was allowed to come to my house and visit.

People always ask the stupidest questions.  Did we kiss, how far did we go?  Yes we kissed. He had to wait.  Not until my senior year in high school did we (did I ) begin to start dating, allowing our dating  to be public.  During that time Goods and Bads happen to me.  Two of my friends shot themselves, I was robbed at gun point point twice working at a part-time job to pay for my cheerleading and drill team uniforms and camp.  Their is a testing to believing that  "Jesus is Lord" I talked with my school counselor constantly because I was being stocked by   someone I didn't know. I even took a telephone operator position in the principles office...Guess what the stocker called me there.  I am so grateful for school police cause they caught him calling me from the school phone booth.  He didn't know about everything that happened but he did not when I got robbed at gun point I was pretty shaken up and he and his family gave me the courage to report the crimes and well as resigned.  

Years later I married this man that proved many things to me.  "I will never regret marring him, not matter what happen later in life. The greatest of these was he stood by me and helped me every chance I got.  He didn't allow my family to stop me from getting an education or getting in our marriage.  He was a believer, like myself and we could both scripture and hold each other accountable which made for both a difficult marriage and one of quality.  Un-replaceable!

and "For this a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh." Matt 19:3  For this reason I plan weddings and do not meddle in the couples business. It is the gift God gave me to provide an income, during this time. This is what I will continue to try to do.    This is one of those scripture verses that I find now I am now to be interesting living another life, unknowing what it will bring. Knowing that my own mom, when I got married and arrived from my honey, went off and married a man I didn't know. She was too busy to attend our wedding gift opening dinner...Oh my God...the stories go on.  "Forgive and don't forget...is my thought you don't have to live the past again... Especially the rapes, the crimes and the violence you left in the past.

Here I am today divorced in her home with that man I still don't know trying to take care of them.  Him with Parkinson's, her with diabetes listen to her telling me to move out all the time knowing, I don't have the finances to do so. Knowing that I can't be her child, knowing what they want is impossible for me to do for them.  They do not believe what I believe.  They did not choose what I choose.  Their marriage was not what my marriage was about.  Do I curse her or love her just because she is the mom God gave me.  Knowing that what I am living is not God's best for me.  Too many people with different believe systems in a marriage is not a good thing.  The one thing that is a good thing is that no matter what happens "Jesus is Lord!"

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MEN OF INTEGRITY (PART 6)

 Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Last time we peeked in on Love and B we realized they were in the beginning of discovering what true integrity is.  For some it is the beginning of a change in their being so profound it supersedes all else. True integrity goes beyond the bounds of marriage and into the individual beings beliefs.  It is not just for men it affects men and women.  Men are held to a higher standard, because that is what the bible says.  However, women are held to a high standard of integrity. Both sexes are seen as having an accountability before God.  As individuals and as a couple.  Communication is the key to a good relationship, along with "Love".  The most important is GRACE.  We are imperfect people, no one can meet the high standards set before without understanding and help from others and each other.

Love was rather quite on the way home. B was feeling a little overwhelmed.  They both felt they had integrity, however that talk they were left insecure.

Love finally broke the silence.  B want did you think about what Pastor B said in his talk? Rather intense, right?

B:  I thought we were pretty good about integrity.  I mean we don't cheat, drink alcohol, do drugs.  We have friends were honest, we don't steal. His integrity in incorruptible. The Titus scripture is an interesting one.  What do you think?  I think when we get home I will look it up the word integrity to know what it means in the English language.

Love:  I think it was rather intense, something I definitely have to keep trying to strive for.  Something we all need help achieving. It is letting our YESES, be YES and our NO be NO! 

B: I understand that but sometimes when I am with you and my girlfriends and you guys want to do something.  You ask me and ask me until I am beat down and can't say NO anymore. That means we have to accept the first No people say as NO.

In that time we they both arrived home.  B went straight for the dictionary. She looked it up in several visions. Love listen to this...Integrity 

1.  a firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values incorruptibility.

2.  an unpaired condition 

3.  the quality or stat of being complete or undivided

Okay I feel better.  Not like I thought but not as difficult as I thought.  The problem I see is getting people to understand my No's mean NO.  What do you think?  Love, looked and B gave her a big hug and said, I can help with that.

With that thought they both felt better about their meeting with Pastor B.  She knew he battled some of the same problems in life.  They both were on the same path trying to get people to realize they may be young but they were striving for integrity that only they two knew.  The trust grew a little more.