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Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

First foodie review 2012

Lets talk!  I want to share a little of my day yesterday.  I was gathering information for an article I am writing "Togg".  It will be an article about the 2013 wedding dresses available at your local designers.  I was setting appointments, taking pictures and enjoying the beautiful day in our beautiful city.  I realized it was late so I decided to have an late lunch or early dinner.  Driving along the coastline of our amazing North County, I knew I wanted to the new restaurant in town.

Foodies, get this...you will love this place! The atmosphere is relax, dress casual. The food is over the top delicious! I had the seafood pasta, but there was not one dish that didn't look so delicious. I have to tell you I wanted to go to the table in front of me and ask them if I could have a taste of all they ordered. Since I was alone, it wasn't exactly the ideal to order everything on the menu. I have to admit I was tempted.  

  If you are looking for a venue for a private party, consider this option with their Modern Beach look it can become and elegant evening venue.  I can imagine it with a wow factor with an event planner that can dress the place up and make it formal.  It's acheticual clean lines allows the imagination to see the possiblity of beach casual to evening glamour. 

Your guest would be greeted with vallet parking that is courtious and kind or the option of parking in the beach parking lot right next door.  It can easly become a place wher a limo can drive in and exit just as easily.

                                                                                                                  

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Etiguette for the Holidays and other Events for the Divorced

Hi there Diamond Glamour Girls;

You know the 21st century is different for women and men.  We have been taught to speak anything we want right or wrong.  This creates brokenness within relationships that should not be.  In the case of divorce maybe less said is better in social situations.  Here are some tips I hope you find helpful.


The Ten Rules of Good Ex-Etiquette for Holidays and other Family Celebrations.

1.  Put Children first.
2.  Remember the spirit of the special occasion.
3.  Never badmouth the ex, extended-family members, the host, or others.
4.  Get organized well in advance.
5.  Don't be spiteful.
6.  Don't hold grudges.
7.  Use empathy when problem solving.
8.  Be honest and straightforward.
9.  Respect each other's turf, holiday rituals and family traditions.
10.  Compromise whenever possible.

These tips I found in a wonderful book " Ex-Etiquette for the Holidays and Other Family Celebrations"

Now here is the truth as I see it.  You were at one time under the impression your ex was the dream of your life.  That they could do no wrong, or would not do any wrong.  They did you divorce, separated choose a differently life.  Now you have these social moments where you could spend time arguing fighting about all the things.

The truth is, you both were wrong.   "It takes two to make a marriage it takes two to break up a marriage."  Do not ask your children to save your marriage.


If there was violence involved then the person who hit was wrong first it is a safety issue...do not be around them.  Make sure you have someone to help you.  If you don't have someone who can attend with you then don't.  Give a polite excuse.  If you have children and it is an event or celebration for your child attend. Be around others and quietly leave without victimizing yourself further. 

If he becomes violent in public...make a scene and let it be known.  (EVEN IF VERBAL OR ANY ACTION THAT IT IMPLIES)  Do not go to an isolated location to have a conversation! Maybe someone will help you.  Do not isolate yourself.  I am sorry if this offends.  It is wonderful you have children but your life matters as well.  Let other know that you have been threaten.  I know it is not etiquette and your children might not understand.  Adult abuse excised.  Be safe.

Etiquette works for those situations where you are or have to be polite.  When the children are little it is one thing, but when they are adults they need to know that you "Do Not Want to Be a Victim."

BE SAFE USE GOOD JUDGEMENT AND DO NOT DRINK ALCOHOL OR DRUGS THAT WILL IMPAIR YOUR ABILITIES.  THEY JUST MAKE THING WORSE. 

Be safe.   Merry Christmas!  Happy New Years!

Dear Journal (Part 5 Meeting with Pastor B.)

Hi there Diamond Glamour Girls:

Dear Journal,
Today is the day I met with my pastor and the other person he wants.  Who ever that is. 

Dear Journal,

I have so much to write down my mind is thinking faster then I can write.  I got to church feeling nervous,  filled with anticipation. of what this conversation was going to be about.  Pastor B was his usual caring self.  He asked me how I was feeling, how the planning was coming along.  The he introduced me to the lady standing in the room, Lee.  We both said the usual " Nice to meet you."  Pastor B asked us both to sit down.  We did.

 He began by asking, if I was wondering what he wanted to talk to me about.

 I laughed, jokingly said "no," and then  said "It has had me extremely prayerful.  Did I do something wrong?  I feel a little like I am in the principles office."

"Principles off? When have you ever been called to the principles office?" He laughed.

I started telling him the story of when I was called into the principals office and then realized I was rambling in my words and not letting him speak.  I thought to myself (I am so happy I am speaking with my pastor otherwise anyone else could,would just be upset with me for rambling with my words.  When I am anticipating something I tend to speak of random things so I can just settle myself down into feeling comfortable with the person I am with. I know I tend to want to be respectful sometimes to much.

He sat there patiently listening to me.

I want to tell you we are now in the place in pre-marital counseling were we separate the couple and begin with individualcounseling.  In individual counseling I will be meeting with you and Ree.   

What will be doing?  I asked.

We will be discussing subjects that are sensitive areas to a marriage.  Ree will be here to help, she has been married for a long time and my assistant for a long time so she understands the sensitivities of women role in a marriage.  She also understands the role of a Pastor in marriage counseling.  She will be an advocate for both of us. During this time we will be discussing things like a women's role in marriage, a man's role in marriage, finances, when two become one, the sexual relationship and the ideal of what God indented.  You know all of this will is in the word.  It is truly covered in the bible. Please bring your bible each week.  As we go through and discuss Gods best for a women.  The role Jesus should play in a marriage.  You know that if you are living together you must live in separate homes during this time.  We will be discussing many topics and I think you will enjoy this time of prayer, education and growth in the "Word."  We will also be introducing to you all the people who are involved in putting together your wedding.  Our wedding coordinator and the other members of the body who serve in this ministry.  Pastor B concluded with saying I don't want you to worry, it is a time of blessing you as a women and as a bride.  

I was thankful it was just an information meeting.  I wasn't really prepared for how detailed Pastor B is.  Lee seemed nice, but then again everyone is nice in my church so I never expect anything less.  I did get to explain that we were really living together, but... Pastor B stopped me and said he already knew, that need to stop as well.

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Dear Journal; (Part 4 )

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Dear Journal,

Worried about what my Pastor wants to say to me.  My boss is now upset with me because of the way I talked to him when he wanted to give me a promotion.  I just wish he would of given me the promotion before I became engaged.  It makes me feel like the engagement is what was important not my work ethic.
My Pastor wants to have a conversation about what?  What could be so important that he want to see me out of the usual once a week marriage counseling?  My parents want me to have this huge engagement party.  Since the wedding isn't for another year.  My fiance in the midst of all of this is all about work and not listening or helping me with all the decisions that need to be made.  My best friend just keeps asking me the same question my sister keeps asking me am I your maid of honor.  My sister is married technically it would be a matron of honor, but when I explained this to her she got upset and told me I was calling her an old women.  Now she isn't speaking to me.  "Why did I what to get married?";  I ask myself.

Dear Journal;

I called my sister to try to explain it again.  "I am not calling you old, I was telling you that a married person is called a "Matron" of Honor."  she hung up the phone on me.  If I try to talk to my girlfriend about this she will get all over me about who else is going to be in my wedding.  The whole girl power thing.  God how I hate, those moments when I have to tell everyone "STOP" this isn't about you, it's about me.


Dear Journal;

 Mom called to ask me what I said to my sister.  I explained what I had said.  She got upset and then started laughing.  She was married and had a matron of honor, so she didn't understand what the big deal was.  She asked if we set a date for the engagement party.  I said no, not sure I wanted one.  She again stressed the importance of one.  Asked if I was ready to start shopping for the wedding dress.  Explained that Pastor called me for a meeting.  She said it was probably nothing.  Don't make a big deal out of it.  I asked her if she knew how much the budget I was getting.  Mom said she would ask dad.

 
Dear Journal;

Meeting with wedding planner:  Introductions went well.  She was awesome.  Really gave me a sense of knowing I was doing the right thing by meeting with her.  She didn't ask any real detailed personal stuff.  We both have homework.  #1 on the list.  Find out what our budget is.  #2 Read and sign the contract if we both agree we can work with her.  She needs the budget amount to put in the contract.
 

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Caterers

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Start off knowing your budget, what you can afford to spend.  Have a backup amount.  Let say you want to spend $30,000.00 on your wedding and everything that goes with that.  Have an additional $5,000-10,000.00 set aside just in case.  This means you won’t always find what you want at the price you want. If you can’t find what you want you might have to spend a little more to get it, you won’t feel stressed out about it.

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Dear Jounal (Part 3 The Struggle of a Bride)

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Dear Journal;

I am so excited, got a promotion at work!  My boss thinks that because I am getting married I am more serious about work.  I explained that I have always been serious about work and have never let him or the company down, but somehow he equates me getting married with me being more responsible and mature.  How he got that idea I don't know.  I think it is a little sexiest, but I am not sure. He has never made any advances or said anything that I consider a violation.  I have to share it with my fiance and see what her thinks.  My boss said to me "For promotion cometh neither from the east , nor from the west, nor from the south..."  Then he offered me a promotion!  A promotion, now I even have more responsibilities.  More money is good I can help my parent pay for the wedding.


Dear Journal;

I shared what my boss said with my fiance and he says I am just being stupid.  I quoted what he said: "For promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south..."  My fiance smiled: He thinks I am making a big deal out of nothing.  What? I asked?  How can you say that.  It bothers me to know that just because I am getting married, suddenly changes me into something different.  Like I am not going to work the same. or that suddenly my work will be better.  That's stupid! I am still the same women.  Now, I am thinking I will be around two stupid men all the time.  One that thinks that a married woman is a better worker than a signal woman and the other one who thinks I didn't make a valid point.  Which is it?  Am I a stupid women, or a professional who gets thing done.  I can't be both. Can't wait to discuss this in marital counseling class.  Glad we are taking a year to plan the wedding.  I think I will mention it to the wedding planner to see if she has ever heard of such a thing.  I am not sure of what I am doing now?  What I thought was good may not be and what I thought was bad may not be?


Dear Journal;

After calling several wedding planners and comparing one with the other I finally decided to meet with one.  Excited to show her all the pictures I have collected throughout the years.  How I want this wedding to look and don't care about anything but making it my day!  The phone had a messaged, Pastors secretary called.  What could she want.  Will call her back tomorrow.  I am too busy today, have to get all my ideas together for the wedding planner.  Do you think it is anything like the movie?  Do I take him with me on the meeting?  Will ask him, but ever since he proposed and I try to talk about anything to do with the wedding all he says is:"What ever you want dear.  Just leave me out of all the details.  I will show up on the wedding day. That's good enough, right?"  I called her back again and asked her if I should bring my fiance.  She said yes.  The first meeting should be between the three of us.  She might have her assistant there, it all depends on what else needs to get done for other brides. 


Dear Journal;

First thing this morning I called the secretary back.  She says Pastor wants to met with me without my fiance, he promises there will be another women in the room so don't worry.  He has something he really wants to talk with me about.  But doesn't want me alone when I hear. (Panic, I feel my stomach all in knots. ) His secretary said to me" Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the is its own trouble."  What could he have to say to me that my fiance can't hear.  Why would my Pastor be afraid to be in a room alone with me?  That's weird!

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Dear Diary (I decided to call your Journal) Part 2

Dear Journal;

Thank God we are doing to met with our pastor for pre-marital counseling.  I have so many questions about what marriage will be like.  Do I come completely clean with all the ideas or do I only speak of the things that are superficial?  Do I dare talk to my pastor about sex?  I don't even like talking to my parents about it.  He, he...God only knows what he does to me when I look at him.  Do I share this with my preacher, my teacher or do I let the Lord guide my heart? Self control is the key to any relationship.  That is what I have been told since childhood.  Now I am an adult.  What will it be like be married?  What will it be like having a husband?  What will it be like to have one person for the rest of my life?  What if I don't like him after I get married?  What if it is all about the "Lust" I feel rather than the truth?


Dear Journal;

I finally got to talk to my fiance (I have to laugh at that word I still feel like a little girl inside)  I know I am old enough, I know I understand and have prayed for this my whole life.  I finally got to speak with him about his expectations of me after marriage.  Career, children, money, who is going to do what?  Who is going to be responsible for what.  I have this image of what marriage should be like.  My dad was such a great father.  He taught me, he educated me on sex, but most of all he prayed with me.  Does this man I am going to marry respect me as much as my dad does.  He taught me to be a strong women.  Career women, but never put anything, or anyone before God.  That a family that prays together stays together?  As much as I love this man I am about to marry I find myself having difficulty separated the ideals of marriage from the the reality.

Dear Journal;

I hate this man I am about to marry.  HE IS A CONTROL FREAK!  HE WANTS EVERYTHING HIS WAY.  HE EVENT TOLD ME "MY WAY OR THE HIGH WAY."  I think I am cancelling this marriage.  Taking the high way sound much better than doing things his way.  Meeting with the pastor tomorrow and telling him everything he told me.

Dear Journal,

I told my pastor I am having second thoughts.  The way my fiance talks to me is so disrespectful!  He yells at me.  My fiance was embarrassed.  I felt so bad, to see him hurt and at the same time he deserved it.  Still undecided.  I have to pray and talk with my family.  We are going to go talk with event planners tomorrow.

Dear Journal,
Prayed about what to do.  Control is such a battle right now.  Money, family, friends all want some control.  Checking on line to see what I want.  Should I meet with wedding planners or should I plan this wedding on my own.  Will it just be one more people telling me what to do?  Or will it be someone who will help me find what I really want.  So many people are in our relationship now...everyone has an opinion and a better way to do things.  NO ONE IS LISTENING TO WHAT I WANT!  I think I will contact a wedding planner just to have a conversation and get a professionals opinion. 

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Oh Dear Diary

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls:

Have you ever written something like this:

Oh Dear Diary aka Journal,

I think I found him.  My prince.  My charming.  He is everything you could imagine and more.  His eyes are the dreamiest of colors. His lips they look the of my...OMG could I really write how they look, how they make me feel?  No of coarse not, what if this is found?  What if this is read by another.  What will they think?  What do I think?  Oh he is just everything I want.  He has a good job.  Good height.  Good bone structure.  I could really dress him up.  But my mind wants to dress him down.  Oh no, I hear my preachers sermon telling me to keep my thoughts in check.  How I long for companionship?  How I long to ..... I hear it again self control.  It was only the first time I met him.  I will write more later.


Dear Diary/Journal, (Actually I never know what to call you.  I am too old for a diary but journal sound like something my mother would do.)
 I saw him again today.  We went out to dinner and a movie.  We went for a walk afterwords looking for things to talk about we discussed all his favorite things.  He is athletic.  He treats me so well.  He went on and on about all the things he does with his buddies.  Does he know how much I want a hug?  A kiss?  All I can do is look into his eyes and dream.  Self control I tell myself.  Self control.  My pastor would be so happy with me and him we are taking it slow.


Okay Journal (I decided that is what I will call you....Journal)

 I decided I am a mature human being able to decide on a name to call you.  So what if when someone sees the name they automatically what to read it.  My mom was always so into my business.  I wonder what his mom is into.  Is she hoover over him? Does she watch over her son?  Does she pray with him or for him? Is she beautiful?  What is she like?  What kind of relationship does he have with his parents?  What kind of relationship will I have with his parents?  OMG! I am so worried about things that are not even hear yet.  Looking into the future as if I had a crystal ball.  Here it goes again that Pastor of mine shows up at my every thought of wrong doing or not. Okay, I know it is really the Holy Spirit within me but I call it my pastor because somehow my thoughts appear in his sermon.  I give thanks for anything in the future!  Not knowing what the future will hold with him and I.

Journal, my friend my best listener,

I haven't written in so long....  I have been so busy with the present.  I know you know, that I know, that you know, that God knows our every thought.  I know... I am finally happy.  He asked me to marry him last night and I accepted.  The ring is going to be the envy of all my girlfriends.  It is amazing, he knew just what I wanted.  Of coarse I dropped hints at every jewelry store we passed by.  I wonder should I get it appeased?  Insured?  But if I do and it isn't what I think it is will I be disappointed?

Best Listener, Journal,

I confessed to my friends and family, asking for advice about getting the ring appraised.  They asked me if I doubted him about the ring, what else did I doubt him about. I confessed, it is scary getting married and committing my life to one person.  I know, I know, it is God's plan for me.  But is he?  His perfectness is just so human now.  We argue sometimes about the stupidest of things and I get frustrated with how much he wants to take over my life.  My mom says I got to involved with his things and should have kept more of my girlfriends around.  The truth is I invited them but between my mom, his mom, and him, I just gave up pursuing my personal interest.  Is this right?

Dear Journal,

Okay, I decided I am absolutely going to marry him.  He is the one for me we start counseling aka marriage classes with our Pastor this week.  I am scared.  What if we find out we are not perfect for each other.  What if he sees me different after all this time, I have invested in him.  He is even dressing how I want him to now.  He looks so cute!  I can't get over how cute he looked in that sweeter with those eyes of his.  Any girl would be proud to have his arm around her shoulder.  I have to stop writing...my thoughts are back on flesh rather than what is right in "His" eyes.  2 Sa 7 :27

Men's Wedding ( ? Honey, Do we hire a wedding planner or coordinator?)

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Before I started writing this I was listen to music, in the song I was listen to it was talking about  the things a man thinks about before he decides to get married.  In the song it talks about how he thinks about him mother, he thinks about the women in his life.  He does a mental inventory of the women he has dated.  But when it comes down to it he marries someone like one of the women he know or grew up with.  It might be his mother, it might be his sister, but either way it is finding a women that comforts him like in his youth.  He usually also knows the difference between a virtuous women (Proverbs 31:10-22) and one who is not. 

                                                                                                                
Wedding Prayer
written by Robert Lois Stevenson

Lord, behold our family here assembled.
We thank you for this place in which we dwell,
for the love that unites us,
for the peace accorded us this day,
for the hope with which we expect the morrow,
for the health, the work, the food,
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;
                                                                                                                                                                                                                for our friends in all parts of the earth.

I know that if a man can figures out what type of women they want to marry prior to asking the women, they also feel a sense of panic when that women turns into a bridezilla.  "Bridezilla"defined as: a woman planning a wedding overwhelmed with the decision making process, finances and everyone demanding a piece of her, her time, her money, most of all her attention.  As a cooping skill she can react in a negative way with those around her.  The panic within him make him question why he asked her to marry him in the first place.  It amazes me how many men question their whole relationship while planning their wedding.

Both male and female feel the same types of stress during the wedding planning process.  The both lash out in different ways.  Each person knows what they can handle, but only walking through the process do they become stronger.  There is no person that can teach us how to control our emotions, our being as much as there is a knowing that we will get through it all together.  During the wedding process grooms need as much assurance as the brides do.

The role of a wedding planner/coordinator is to ease some of the decision making process.  It is to assist them both to make the process better.  I often get asked what is the difference between a wedding planner and a wedding coordinator.

Planner:
a: a method for achieving an end
b: an often customary method of doing something : procedure c: a detailed formulation of a program of action

 d: goal, aim

Coordinator:

1a: equal in rank, quality, or significance

 b: being of equal rank in a sentence <coordinate clauses>

2: relating to or marked by coordination

3a: being a university that awards degrees to men and women taught usually by the same faculty but attending separate classes often on separate campuses

 b: being one of the colleges and especially the women's branch of a coordinate university

4: of, relating to, or being a system of indexing by two or more terms so that documents may be retrieved through the intersection of index terms

 If you were to compare it to a football team.  The wedding planner would be the coach.  The coordinator would be the quarterback or the defense back.  If you look at if from a "band directors" point of view.  It is the difference between the drum major who call the songs that will be played and a member of the band calling the songs.  Who leads your wedding is important to you.  Choosing a professional will make or break your wedding.  Be smart and education yourself on what exactly you want assistance on before hiring and ease your stress during this season in your life.

 The saddest part about writing this blog, is realizing there are not allot of positive images of men and marriage.  If you look up Woman's Wedding Day you find all kinds of images, that relate to the happy occasion, but if you look up Men's Wedding Day, there are lots of the same images.  Woman for the most part try their hardest to think wonderful thoughts about the man they are about to marry.  Positive images help that thought.  We idealize about how wonderful you are even if it's not true.  We know that you are not perfect, like we are not, but we hope for the best and place images of how great it can be, when both work together.  In searching for pictures for this blog, I lacked positive images that men think about women.  All said and done it is really about "This girl loves her husband".  Men your bride needs you to think wonderful positive things about her too.