Friday, November 30, 2012

Dear Journal; (Part 4 )




Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Dear Journal,

Worried about what my Pastor wants to say to me.  My boss is now upset with me because of the way I talked to him when he wanted to give me a promotion.  I just wish he would of given me the promotion before I became engaged.  It makes me feel like the engagement is what was important not my work ethic.
My Pastor wants to have a conversation about what?  What could be so important that he want to see me out of the usual once a week marriage counseling?  My parents want me to have this huge engagement party.  Since the wedding isn't for another year.  My fiance in the midst of all of this is all about work and not listening or helping me with all the decisions that need to be made.  My best friend just keeps asking me the same question my sister keeps asking me am I your maid of honor.  My sister is married technically it would be a matron of honor, but when I explained this to her she got upset and told me I was calling her an old women.  Now she isn't speaking to me.  "Why did I what to get married?";  I ask myself.

Dear Journal;

I called my sister to try to explain it again.  "I am not calling you old, I was telling you that a married person is called a "Matron" of Honor."  she hung up the phone on me.  If I try to talk to my girlfriend about this she will get all over me about who else is going to be in my wedding.  The whole girl power thing.  God how I hate, those moments when I have to tell everyone "STOP" this isn't about you, it's about me.


Dear Journal;

 Mom called to ask me what I said to my sister.  I explained what I had said.  She got upset and then started laughing.  She was married and had a matron of honor, so she didn't understand what the big deal was.  She asked if we set a date for the engagement party.  I said no, not sure I wanted one.  She again stressed the importance of one.  Asked if I was ready to start shopping for the wedding dress.  Explained that Pastor called me for a meeting.  She said it was probably nothing.  Don't make a big deal out of it.  I asked her if she knew how much the budget I was getting.  Mom said she would ask dad.

 
Dear Journal;

Meeting with wedding planner:  Introductions went well.  She was awesome.  Really gave me a sense of knowing I was doing the right thing by meeting with her.  She didn't ask any real detailed personal stuff.  We both have homework.  #1 on the list.  Find out what our budget is.  #2 Read and sign the contract if we both agree we can work with her.  She needs the budget amount to put in the contract.
 

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Thursday, November 29, 2012

Dear Jounal (Part 3 The Struggle of a Bride)



Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Dear Journal;

I am so excited, got a promotion at work!  My boss thinks that because I am getting married I am more serious about work.  I explained that I have always been serious about work and have never let him or the company down, but somehow he equates me getting married with me being more responsible and mature.  How he got that idea I don't know.  I think it is a little sexiest, but I am not sure. He has never made any advances or said anything that I consider a violation.  I have to share it with my fiance and see what her thinks.  My boss said to me "For promotion cometh neither from the east , nor from the west, nor from the south..."  Then he offered me a promotion!  A promotion, now I even have more responsibilities.  More money is good I can help my parent pay for the wedding.


Dear Journal;

I shared what my boss said with my fiance and he says I am just being stupid.  I quoted what he said: "For promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south..."  My fiance smiled: He thinks I am making a big deal out of nothing.  What? I asked?  How can you say that.  It bothers me to know that just because I am getting married, suddenly changes me into something different.  Like I am not going to work the same. or that suddenly my work will be better.  That's stupid! I am still the same women.  Now, I am thinking I will be around two stupid men all the time.  One that thinks that a married woman is a better worker than a signal woman and the other one who thinks I didn't make a valid point.  Which is it?  Am I a stupid women, or a professional who gets thing done.  I can't be both. Can't wait to discuss this in marital counseling class.  Glad we are taking a year to plan the wedding.  I think I will mention it to the wedding planner to see if she has ever heard of such a thing.  I am not sure of what I am doing now?  What I thought was good may not be and what I thought was bad may not be?


Dear Journal;

After calling several wedding planners and comparing one with the other I finally decided to meet with one.  Excited to show her all the pictures I have collected throughout the years.  How I want this wedding to look and don't care about anything but making it my day!  The phone had a messaged, Pastors secretary called.  What could she want.  Will call her back tomorrow.  I am too busy today, have to get all my ideas together for the wedding planner.  Do you think it is anything like the movie?  Do I take him with me on the meeting?  Will ask him, but ever since he proposed and I try to talk about anything to do with the wedding all he says is:"What ever you want dear.  Just leave me out of all the details.  I will show up on the wedding day. That's good enough, right?"  I called her back again and asked her if I should bring my fiance.  She said yes.  The first meeting should be between the three of us.  She might have her assistant there, it all depends on what else needs to get done for other brides. 


Dear Journal;

First thing this morning I called the secretary back.  She says Pastor wants to met with me without my fiance, he promises there will be another women in the room so don't worry.  He has something he really wants to talk with me about.  But doesn't want me alone when I hear. (Panic, I feel my stomach all in knots. ) His secretary said to me" Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the is its own trouble."  What could he have to say to me that my fiance can't hear.  Why would my Pastor be afraid to be in a room alone with me?  That's weird!

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Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Dear Diary (I decided to call your Journal) Part 2

Dear Journal;

Thank God we are doing to met with our pastor for pre-marital counseling.  I have so many questions about what marriage will be like.  Do I come completely clean with all the ideas or do I only speak of the things that are superficial?  Do I dare talk to my pastor about sex?  I don't even like talking to my parents about it.  He, he...God only knows what he does to me when I look at him.  Do I share this with my preacher, my teacher or do I let the Lord guide my heart? Self control is the key to any relationship.  That is what I have been told since childhood.  Now I am an adult.  What will it be like be married?  What will it be like having a husband?  What will it be like to have one person for the rest of my life?  What if I don't like him after I get married?  What if it is all about the "Lust" I feel rather than the truth?


Dear Journal;

I finally got to talk to my fiance (I have to laugh at that word I still feel like a little girl inside)  I know I am old enough, I know I understand and have prayed for this my whole life.  I finally got to speak with him about his expectations of me after marriage.  Career, children, money, who is going to do what?  Who is going to be responsible for what.  I have this image of what marriage should be like.  My dad was such a great father.  He taught me, he educated me on sex, but most of all he prayed with me.  Does this man I am going to marry respect me as much as my dad does.  He taught me to be a strong women.  Career women, but never put anything, or anyone before God.  That a family that prays together stays together?  As much as I love this man I am about to marry I find myself having difficulty separated the ideals of marriage from the the reality.

Dear Journal;

I hate this man I am about to marry.  HE IS A CONTROL FREAK!  HE WANTS EVERYTHING HIS WAY.  HE EVENT TOLD ME "MY WAY OR THE HIGH WAY."  I think I am cancelling this marriage.  Taking the high way sound much better than doing things his way.  Meeting with the pastor tomorrow and telling him everything he told me.

Dear Journal,

I told my pastor I am having second thoughts.  The way my fiance talks to me is so disrespectful!  He yells at me.  My fiance was embarrassed.  I felt so bad, to see him hurt and at the same time he deserved it.  Still undecided.  I have to pray and talk with my family.  We are going to go talk with event planners tomorrow.

Dear Journal,
Prayed about what to do.  Control is such a battle right now.  Money, family, friends all want some control.  Checking on line to see what I want.  Should I meet with wedding planners or should I plan this wedding on my own.  Will it just be one more people telling me what to do?  Or will it be someone who will help me find what I really want.  So many people are in our relationship now...everyone has an opinion and a better way to do things.  NO ONE IS LISTENING TO WHAT I WANT!  I think I will contact a wedding planner just to have a conversation and get a professionals opinion. 
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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Oh Dear Diary

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls:

Have you ever written something like this:

Oh Dear Diary aka Journal,

I think I found him.  My prince.  My charming.  He is everything you could imagine and more.  His eyes are the dreamiest of colors. His lips they look the of my...OMG could I really write how they look, how they make me feel?  No of coarse not, what if this is found?  What if this is read by another.  What will they think?  What do I think?  Oh he is just everything I want.  He has a good job.  Good height.  Good bone structure.  I could really dress him up.  But my mind wants to dress him down.  Oh no, I hear my preachers sermon telling me to keep my thoughts in check.  How I long for companionship?  How I long to ..... I hear it again self control.  It was only the first time I met him.  I will write more later.


Dear Diary/Journal, (Actually I never know what to call you.  I am too old for a diary but journal sound like something my mother would do.)
 I saw him again today.  We went out to dinner and a movie.  We went for a walk afterwords looking for things to talk about we discussed all his favorite things.  He is athletic.  He treats me so well.  He went on and on about all the things he does with his buddies.  Does he know how much I want a hug?  A kiss?  All I can do is look into his eyes and dream.  Self control I tell myself.  Self control.  My pastor would be so happy with me and him we are taking it slow.


Okay Journal (I decided that is what I will call you....Journal)

 I decided I am a mature human being able to decide on a name to call you.  So what if when someone sees the name they automatically what to read it.  My mom was always so into my business.  I wonder what his mom is into.  Is she hoover over him? Does she watch over her son?  Does she pray with him or for him? Is she beautiful?  What is she like?  What kind of relationship does he have with his parents?  What kind of relationship will I have with his parents?  OMG! I am so worried about things that are not even hear yet.  Looking into the future as if I had a crystal ball.  Here it goes again that Pastor of mine shows up at my every thought of wrong doing or not. Okay, I know it is really the Holy Spirit within me but I call it my pastor because somehow my thoughts appear in his sermon.  I give thanks for anything in the future!  Not knowing what the future will hold with him and I.

Journal, my friend my best listener,

I haven't written in so long....  I have been so busy with the present.  I know you know, that I know, that you know, that God knows our every thought.  I know... I am finally happy.  He asked me to marry him last night and I accepted.  The ring is going to be the envy of all my girlfriends.  It is amazing, he knew just what I wanted.  Of coarse I dropped hints at every jewelry store we passed by.  I wonder should I get it appeased?  Insured?  But if I do and it isn't what I think it is will I be disappointed?

Best Listener, Journal,

I confessed to my friends and family, asking for advice about getting the ring appraised.  They asked me if I doubted him about the ring, what else did I doubt him about. I confessed, it is scary getting married and committing my life to one person.  I know, I know, it is God's plan for me.  But is he?  His perfectness is just so human now.  We argue sometimes about the stupidest of things and I get frustrated with how much he wants to take over my life.  My mom says I got to involved with his things and should have kept more of my girlfriends around.  The truth is I invited them but between my mom, his mom, and him, I just gave up pursuing my personal interest.  Is this right?

Dear Journal,

Okay, I decided I am absolutely going to marry him.  He is the one for me we start counseling aka marriage classes with our Pastor this week.  I am scared.  What if we find out we are not perfect for each other.  What if he sees me different after all this time, I have invested in him.  He is even dressing how I want him to now.  He looks so cute!  I can't get over how cute he looked in that sweeter with those eyes of his.  Any girl would be proud to have his arm around her shoulder.  I have to stop writing...my thoughts are back on flesh rather than what is right in "His" eyes.  2 Sa 7 :27

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Men's Wedding ( ? Honey, Do we hire a wedding planner or coordinator?)

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Ad imageBefore I started writing this I was listen to music, in the song I was listen to it was talking about  the things a man thinks about before he decides to get married.  In the song it talks about how he thinks about him mother, he thinks about the women in his life.  He does a mental inventory of the women he has dated.  But when it comes down to it he marries someone like one of the women he know or grew up with.  It might be his mother, it might be his sister, but either way it is finding a women that comforts him like in his youth.  He usually also knows the difference between a virtuous women (Proverbs 31:10-22) and one who is not. 

                                                                                                                
Wedding Prayer
written by Robert Lois Stevenson

Lord, behold our family here assembled.
We thank you for this place in which we dwell,
for the love that unites us,
for the peace accorded us this day,
for the hope with which we expect the morrow,
for the health, the work, the food,
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;
                                                                                                                                                                                                                for our friends in all parts of the earth.

I know that if a man can figures out what type of women they want to marry prior to asking the women, they also feel a sense of panic when that women turns into a bridezilla.  "Bridezilla"defined as: a woman planning a wedding overwhelmed with the decision making process, finances and everyone demanding a piece of her, her time, her money, most of all her attention.  As a cooping skill she can react in a negative way with those around her.  The panic within him make him question why he asked her to marry him in the first place.  It amazes me how many men question their whole relationship while planning their wedding.

Both male and female feel the same types of stress during the wedding planning process.  The both lash out in different ways.  Each person knows what they can handle, but only walking through the process do they become stronger.  There is no person that can teach us how to control our emotions, our being as much as there is a knowing that we will get through it all together.  During the wedding process grooms need as much assurance as the brides do.

The role of a wedding planner/coordinator is to ease some of the decision making process.  It is to assist them both to make the process better.  I often get asked what is the difference between a wedding planner and a wedding coordinator.

Planner:
a: a method for achieving an end
b: an often customary method of doing something : procedure c: a detailed formulation of a program of action
 d: goal, aim
Coordinator:
1a: equal in rank, quality, or significance
 b: being of equal rank in a sentence <coordinate clauses>
2: relating to or marked by coordination
3a: being a university that awards degrees to men and women taught usually by the same faculty but attending separate classes often on separate campuses
 b: being one of the colleges and especially the women's branch of a coordinate university
4: of, relating to, or being a system of indexing by two or more terms so that documents may be retrieved through the intersection of index terms
 If you were to compare it to a football team.  The wedding planner would be the coach.  The coordinator would be the quarterback or the defense back.  If you look at if from a "band directors" point of view.  It is the difference between the drum major who call the songs that will be played and a member of the band calling the songs.  Who leads your wedding is important to you.  Choosing a professional will make or break your wedding.  Be smart and education yourself on what exactly you want assistance on before hiring and ease your stress during this season in your life.
 The saddest part about writing this blog, is realizing there are not allot of positive images of men and marriage.  If you look up Woman's Wedding Day you find all kinds of images, that relate to the happy occasion, but if you look up Men's Wedding Day, there are lots of the same images.  Woman for the most part try their hardest to think wonderful thoughts about the man they are about to marry.  Positive images help that thought.  We idealize about how wonderful you are even if it's not true.  We know that you are not perfect, like we are not, but we hope for the best and place images of how great it can be, when both work together.  In searching for pictures for this blog, I lacked positive images that men think about women.  All said and done it is really about "This girl loves her husband".  Men your bride needs you to think wonderful positive things about her too.

Friday, November 9, 2012

Thanksgiving (Help 7 People and the Economy by sending one Holiday Card)

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

I had some time today to start putting my Christmas Card list together. Writing them out. It is a rainy day in San Diego, and I don't really feel like going out or working on my business. So I start that list of Christmas things we all hate to do. You know the things that you wonder if people cared about or if only you do? The first was and always is to begin writing my cards. Throughout the years I have sent cards, letters,  post cards, emails, e-cards and last year I event sent text messages. I have to confess, last year was a low point as I think of the importance of the Holiday Season and how special the season is.  It doesn't matter if you spend the season alone or with family and friends the meaning of the season is still as important yesterday, today and tomorrow.

To get me in the mood I decided to write about what matters most to me. It all begins the seasons with Thanksgiving. No matter what you celebrate the season begins with Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving is defined in the following way:

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is the beginning of gratitude,
Gratitude is the state of being grateful: thankfulness
Thankfulness is the conscious of benefit received...
Maria Kamon


I learned as a child to walk and think always of the things I am thankful for. The past few years have been rather sad for me on the personal front, therefore when I don't have the words to express our thankfulness I look to others to express it for me.

This year with the technology being so fast, I decided to look up works of others. Here goes. It is a way I feel I, and maybe all of us should feel, but most of us, being the humans that we are we take those around us for  take for granted. 


To really give thanks to what I am thankful for
For my family, my health, a nice soft bed
My friends, my freedom, a roof over my head
I'm thankful right now to be surrounded by these
Whose lives touch memory than they'll ever possibly know
Thankful Lord, that You've blessed me beyond measure
Thankful that in my heart lives life's greatest treasure
Thank you dear Jesus, reside in place
And I am ever so grateful for understand grace
So please heavenly Father, bless this food You've provided
And bless each and every person invited.
Amen
Scott Weseman

Consider sending someone you know a hand written note, or a holiday card.  Let them know that they were important enough for you to take the time to write them.  It will create more employment for humans like you and me.  I know that many are employeed in technology but there are many more people who need employment as also.  One card, gives employment to the preson who creates the paper, the person who thought of the peom or saying, the person who type set it or typed it into the computer, the person who purchased the card, the person who created the stamp, the postal worker who delivered it.  In purchasing one card you have employeed, the person who inspired you to purchase the card and bless someone by doing so.  You have just employeed 7 people.  Congratulations!  You have just help 7 people.  Blessings! 

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Tuesday, November 6, 2012

What do New Couples and Voting Have In Common

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;



I was thinking about this day...pondering, reflecting on all the brides I have been privileged and blessed to work with.  This day like your wedding day has been planned for for years.  How important it is.  Here are some things I thought and Presidential Election and a Bride and Groom have in Common

  1. Planned for years!
  2. Some believe it was destiny, others believed it was hard work.
  3. It takes two in order to make it work (There has never been a signal president)
  4. They both have to believe in one another.
  5. They both have to teach each other to believe in the good within and without!
  6. They both have to have common good in mind.
  7. They both have to know that what always looks good isn't always what is good.
  8. They both have to know their finances.
  9. Finances, how to plan for a future.
  10. They need to know that the wedding day, election day is only the beginning to many more days.
  11. They both have to go from a ideal reality to an everyday reality.
  12. The reality is that everything stops for them for a day and then their friends those they get close to go back to being the center of their own world.
  13. The most important part is listening to one another, hearing what they say, and respecting yourself and your opinion enough to know that your Voice and opinion is important to those around you.
  14. They have to care about those they are listening to.
  15. Most of all they need to do what is Right for each other and our country.

MK Pure Diamond Events believes your voice, your opinion matters to us.  We help you achieve your dream.  We might share our opinion but you have the final say in what your event or wedding day will look

like.

Hope in 2020!

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls, It has been a long time since I have written a post blog fort you May of 2019 to be exact. Why now? I...