Attitude

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Viet Nam War

I hope you are ready for Memorial Day! For those of you who follow my tweets yesterdays tweets were KISSES. When I was a child my sisters friends were drafted to fight the war that no one wanted to call war, "Viet Nam". It was after the 60's riots and it always felt like something terrible was about to happen. Where some choose to battle others choose to stay away from. I used the (GNB) Good News Bible. Some argue about the choice of bible, I figured if Billy Graham was about the good news I wanted to know. There was a thing called POW bracelets. You purchased the bracelets and were able to write to soldiers to encourage them. My thoughts were I was a child (under the age of 12) and didn't really know what to write adult men fighting a war they didn't want to. I would read the newspaper and listen to the news, to young to understand the ramifications the "war" "non-war" would have in the lives of these men (forgive me, back then the wars only had men or at least that is what was mainly written about. Anyway, I got to experience how encouraging the word of God is to men.



During these times my dad would help me with attitude and the importance of it:

• Philippians 4:5 (GNB) Show a gentle attitude towards everyone. The Lord is coming soon.

• Teaching me also about the beatitudes. I enjoyed learning what was appropriate and pleasing to God and for a child it was knowing it was a way to have standards, guidelines, measures in her life. It was learning what you can control and what you can't. I could control what I wrote in letters I couldn't control what these men experienced, saw or had to do. They were called to something I was not old enough to understand. 

Convalescent Woman

A few years ago, my aunt was sick in the hospital. I grabbed my bible and sat at her bedside reading Psalms. The love I felt for my aunt at childhood was great. As an adult I read the Psalms in the hope that she would hear me. That she would know love.  I have the best memories of my aunt. Like I said in another blog she was my encourager as a child. She was a nurse, by profession and as an signal mom raising her two children (signal mom) she went back to school to see if she could become a doctor. What a powerful role model for my youth. I watched her and tried to think like her. "All things are possible." One of the things she would ask me is: " What would you attempt to do if you know you couldn't fail." "Faith in God includes Faith in His timing." Hab 2:3  The pain of seeing her there void of herself, was enough to pain myself and cry out for God's grace and mercy in her life. Little did I know that those cries would call a priest to her bedside to give her last communion known to Catholics as Eucharist (last rites). Psalm 6:9. My uncle should up as well. I handed him my bible in the hopes we would pray for my aunt. He read a few verses. When the priest arrived he left. For what reason I do not know, I just knew I couldn't leave her alone without family. I stayed and the priest allowed me the honor of feeding her the communion (the Eucharist). I remember saying out loud I didn't want her to choke, he assured me she could still swallow. He laughed. Assuring me she could still swallow. We both prayed over her. I stayed a while longer after the Priest had left. They moved her back to the convalescent home and she died much later. Later I met my cousin and spoke with her. I confess, I am not sure if I signed in that day, at the hospital. All I know is I sat their praying and loving my aunt the best I could.

Why do I share this story with you? Honestly, I am not sure. My truth is not anyone elses or is it? I believe in the goodness of God. One of those knowing God knew I didn't have to carry my aunts sadness or seeing her die in front of me. Like the men I prayed for. Some got to come back and tell me what the letters meant. Others never returned or if they did I didn't get to hear from them. Those I still remember by name. Those I still carry a remembrance of. Knowing that all things work for the good of those that love Him.

What do you want at your beside when your old?  Attitude of Gratitude (Psalm 90:1). The voice of the Lord is over the waters; The God of glory thunders; The Lord is over many waters. Psalm 29:3  He promises that we will never have more than we are capable of dealing with. I know my Lord is a Good Lord.  Shout! Thank you!

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What Does It All Mean?

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls:

Guess, what I was at the gym this morning and the same TV Program was on "Sex in the City". Normally I plug into my music in order to get into the zone.  Again I plugged into the program on TV as I walked my 30 minutes.  I laugh again at the memories it brought back of my own relation with my then fiance and husband of more than 38 and now my best friend after divorce.

I thought of my event business and how I was hired to plan a funeral after party. That was a challenge for me. I knew I didn't really want to plan this event and gracefully decline. He insisted.  It ended up being one of the most amazing moments to know that so many people could show up to celebrate the life of a women. A woman respected by others, a woman knew she was loved, and I wonder how much she really knew about how much she was loved. It was such a peaceful, joyous, worthy of talking about event. Although I never talk about my clients by name, I do talk about them with the caliber of respect they deserve. She was loved and her guest where so wonderful to our staff that I was pleased how great the event was. It was one of those events, I told the client I wasn't equipped to plan, however their grace allowed it to an event without fault.

Anyway, the story was more about new relationships and how during the time of getting to know each other, we experiment with each others desires, likes and interest.  I like carry was all about living a life in the city. I don't think I had ever gone camping (mountain) or ever even thought about it til I met my husband.  We grew to love the outdoors and all the fun that it brought, however I am still more in love with the Encinitas lifestyle than I will ever be with mountain or country lifestyle.  The laughter comes in when a man is telling you things they like and we as woman laugh or is frighten, we call our best friends to join us at the activity, we are just not sure of or don't understand the man. My husband always had a great sense of humor. I wish now I would of watched this series when it was happening. Relationships in the beginning are both humorous and difficult.  Having children adds another blessing and it's whole set of circumstances. You add teenagers and all their friends it changes again. You divorce and starting over creates it's own challenges.

He showed her that the best friend he has in the cabin was a squirrel, implying he was a little lonely, or just a little strange. He was funny as heck trying to find her compassion, or sympathy point. Her sympathy for was was not there. She like many of found it difficult to believe that his best friend was a squirrel. He couldn't find it and she didn't know exactly what to do. There is a point in all of us "women" when we can no longer stand the cuteness of Ren and have to call for support from others.  We might love the man however we don't have to love his Ren.

Relationships are this funny balance of love, patience and a series of "No's that need to be respected. Woman are able to love the person and not want to be with his Ren. The wisdom of knowing the person, and knowing to love yourself as much is a fine balance in a relationship. It is knowing that some females are different then others, it's a matter of finding the right friends, the ones that believe in you, as a friend, woman, sister, and most of all your ability to succeed as a woman.  With integrity to the point that you would share painful information with her if it meant saving her life. Integrity in business, in our checking accounts, in our ability to life a productive life.  Carrie had that.  If you can become that type of woman you can then create a circle of friends worthy of your companionship. The scripture comes to mind that

The difficult thing is as woman we don't all grow up with "Fathers, Dad's " that Ren us. Most of us don't like it in our bodies and we don't life that way on a daily bases.  In the workplace it is known as sexual harassment. In business it is known as a business person against you not for you.  Therefore "Trust has to be developed. Truth has to be established and love definitely has to be a part of. In my business the workplace doesn't always look like an office. It is where ever I am planning an event. It might be the beach or a venue, or event Barnes and Nobles, while I am writing this blog.

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"Who Has My Ovaries?" Sisterhood

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

I grew up with a Mom and a sister.  My mom always wanted to be my sister she could be my sister

When I was still in my youth I can remember men telling my mom she looked so young.  And then turning around and telling my sister she looked old enough to be my mom.  I felt so sad for my sister. She was so insulted. My dad was insulted because they would then ask if he was her father.  My sister's insulted look was something I will never forget.  My mom was so happy because she was always about the beauty. 

 I thank my God for making me a Daddy's girl.  My dad was all about teaching me through scripture. For this I will be thankful all the days of my life. (Phil 4:6) I never could find a way to explain to my sister what was going on. I understood early in life. With both my sister and dad insulted the family arguements would last longer then what they needed to. How do you explain to a sister five years older that was she is being explained is not truth.  I was the "little sister", I didn't know anything, I was too young to know "innoscent".

Did this make daily living easier?  Was it a smooth day all the time?  That is not what he promises.  His promises are others. There are some things that changed my life along the year of growing up reading the bible.  That his word is true even though the cercumstances might not be. 1. Is knowing that there is compassion and it is different than a life of grace and mercy, peace and understanding.  2. Is that it is important in life to acknowledge the pain of others. (Is 13: 8) I tried to explain to my mom, something that she refuses to understand.

The pain my sister felt.  The pain I felt when she acted beautiful with other men.  Was it cheating on my Father?  (Col 2:8) What did it produce? It produced difficulties I have trouble speaking of today.  I was raped, my dad explained with the bible. At the age of thirteen my dad had to explain something I wasn't mature enough to understand. It was difficult for him to understand why or how another man could treat his child that way and I remember him crying as he explained.  As a child I then tried to explained my mom what had happened. She refused to acknowledge it saying it was my fault. I don't agree, not all things that happen to young woman are their fault.

Today I sit in her home with her trying to get her to understand and she still refuses to acknowledge the pain within, as a teen and an adult.  She wants me to be her, but the truth is I am not.  I won't ever her! I am a different kind of mom. I insult when young men or old give me compliments.  I am a mom of male children, who I demand respect from.  I demanded respect from their friends and I do not allow them to offend women, sexually or with false compliments.

Do I deserve an apology from my mom, so does my sister, she has to fess up to her ways at some point. I don't know if I will ever get it. I know my Lord thinks so, she has denied it my whole life. My dad, his dad both apologize for the teens behavior, and the ripple affect it had on my life, because of the years missing are not a compliment or the best of testimonies.  The said thing is I am feeling the ripple affect today being here in a house of the woman who refused to acknowledge it in the first place.  I can't help but wonder if her and my sister would have acknowledged it how our lives would be different.

"And in that day you will say: O Lord, I will praise you; Through You were angry with me, Your anger is turned away, and You comfort me.  Behold, God is my salvation I will  trust and not be afraid; For Yah, The Lord is my strength and song; He also has become my salvation."

"Who Has Your Ovaries?" (Standing Up)

I like many others Americans stop at "Starbucks" from time to time. The last few weeks I have had the pleasure of being there when there are a bunch of students.  Two different "Starbucks" more than a hundred and fifty miles apart.

What blessing it was to hear the same conversation from two different locations I say that not only because the towns I was in was different, the culture or the ethnicity was different, their age were different, maybe even their social economic level was different.  What was the same was the conversation "Respect" .

The first "Starbucks" the teenage girls were sitting talking, I was working on the computer and over heard.  The phone of one of the girls rang, another girl said "Answer it!" A third girl responded "RESPECT!" She had authority in her voice and they all listen. They continued the conversation about what it meant to respect. It was such a good conversation that at the end of it I had to tell them I was proud of them.

On another day, in another town, in another "Starbucks". Two students working together doing their homework.

They were talking about school and what happens in it at the high school level when someone disrespects.  I think the conversation was something to that effect not really sure I had my headphones on. I took my headphones off to move something and heard one of the students to say you have to tell them to respect you! Religious or not people are to respect. 

On the way out of "Starbucks" I gave them my business card congratulating them. I told them they should know that respect should be in the workplace too.

"A teacher of the law healed in respect by all the people, " Acts 5:35

Are world has changed when students are taught respect in school it can't be all back, right?  The wedding industry has change forever with prop eight, the Pope has changed his view point, our government in San Diego has been has been affected. Y a lack of it.  For those that know and understand "pray with thanksgiving". 

For those in school today I pray you learn not only RESPECT but the value one person came make in the lives of many! That prayer today is as relevant as yesterday and it will be even more relevant tomorrow. How do I know? The simple answer is: "The Bible Tells Me So!"

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"Who Has Your Ovaries?" (Motherhood)

"And on her forehead a name was written:  "MYSTERY, BABYLON THE GREAT, THE MOTHER OF HARLOTS AND OF THE ABOMINATIONS OF THE EARTH." Rev: 17:5

Oh girlfriend how many times have you argued with your mother?  How many times throughout your lifetime have you pleaded for your individuality?  Mother's of son, are they seen differently then mothers of daughters?  Either way there are some mysteries that shouldn't be known until it is our time.

A bowl on my head I wear so I may worship Him?  What type of mother does that make me?  Am I a harlot because I gave birth to son's or am I an angle like my sons because we all worship, the one the only true God.  Is a revaluation the truth, or a mystery of God for us to discovery.  I know that there are times when I was growing up that my mother and I argued about who is in control and who is doing what.

I have prayed, supplicated, worshiped, cried, given testimony after testimonies of the miracles my God has done in my life. I obeyed God's word to letter, as my father taught me.  Did it make my life easier?  Did it make my life rich? Yes, I would say my life is rich, it might not be material wealth, but it is definitely rich, those that know the one true God can only claim it so.

As my mom ages and I take care of her, it is hard to distinguish with the past.  She sees the world so different then I do.  She saw my dad so different then I did.  She remarried away after their divorce and became a different woman, now she is old and I have difficulty relating to her because she chose through out her life not to be close to my children and I.

In the attempt to not choose the same things she did I write text messages to my adult son's everyday. They are seen as endless annoyances but it is my way of communicating with them in the hopes of having a relationships with my adult young men.  My mom's believe is that men do not need a relationship with their mom.  My believe is that no matter what age you are or what you choose to do your mom is something you can't change. She gave birth to you.  Good, bad, ugly, beautiful she is your mom.  

Forgive me children if I choose to be a part of your life.  Forgive me for my annoying text messages detailing everything I do.  Forgive me if you are bothered with a mom that wants to be part of your life and would not give that opportunity to anyone to replace her.  Forgive me, for bothering you.  Forgive me for praying for you.  Mom's like me prayed for the day of your birth since childhood, we prayed for you to get healed when you were sick, we prayed for your teen years to be safe even if it meant us falling.  We will continue to pray for young adult lives.  And we will continue to pray all the days of our lives that if we are not together we are together.  We are a part of you, you are a part of me.  No God would ever tear that apart.  I know I am your annoyance, but it is only to remind you you our my love.  Your are the Grace that God gave me to watch over.  You are His gift and my presents.

I know not all mom's think this way, but I am who my Father made.

Who's in Control of Your Ovaries? (Motherhood)

"And Adam called dhis wife's name Eve, because she was the mother of all living." Gen. 3:20 

From the moment a female finds out she is pregnant life changes.  Shortly after that the back hurts, she becomes tired, doesn't want to be touched, feet swells, face swells, people greet the belly instead of her.  People no longer say hello, they star and talk to the baby to be.  Family says hiand right   away starts asking how do you feel. As if suddenly you should be feeling something, but your not sure what, so you ask the question you don't want to ask.  "How should I be feeling?"  As soon as that question gets asked....put on your listening ears cause the rest of the time you will be hearing about every women who is there experience with pregnancy.  The Good and the not so good.  I can remember thinking....help me.

Your mom tells everyone about how her pregnancy was with you.  How she felt,  It is her payback time.  Her time to share how you made her feel.  How you took away her freedom. How life changes after you have a baby, and the marriage is never the same.  I laugh at how things can be so different from one women to another. 

Technically, do you think Eve would have accepted the name if she knew its definition?  I think not!  she would of had to choose which living thing she wanted.  Do you want this or this or that.  If I had to do over I would have told God, I want.....  Instead of "Dear God, may I please have....honestly no mom want to think of their son as a "Fill-her", but was that what God meant by all living things? But then again was the snake one of those living things?  If so was he from Adams thought life?

I think if Adam was the best God could make then think about it...he reacted to the snake exactly how men react to "Honey, I'm pregnant." They look at us like we are from another planet.  As if we did it all by ourselves. Confession l know their are devises that exist like that but I don't think it is God's best.  However, they don't talk much either.  So who knows.  "Not right now..I am just about to....Oh touchdown!  What did you say honey your what?" 

What is Motherhood really about.  Ask your children in about 20 years if they are still talking to you and see what they answer.  My answer...."Love".  Learning to love in a way that nothing on earth or heaven will ever teach how totally and completely you can love another human. That raising one of those living thing God gave Eve took a whole lot of GRACE!

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"Grace"

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Here is the deal with GRACE, yes for some, it is a woman's name, for some it is a way of life.  I attended a church once and I don't want to mention it by name so I will whisper it  (horizon christian fellowship aka horizon.org  "I whisper because I don't want people to think me religious' (LOL) I work with clients of many different faiths.)  where the Pastor at Horizon Christian Fellowship  believed in grace.  I Horizon Christian Fellowship there after being broken from serving at another church that will remain nameless. "He" helped me with the pain from point of grace. Something I will never forget.  I learned to show grace to other, okay, I might have already known how to do this, but his words comfort his congregation, because of who he is.  It is not so much that he is put on a pedestal, or that I worship him as a Pastor.  More because I learned at his church that prayer doesn't need to be pained.  That grace really does exists.  Healing really does happen and "Forgiveness" is not just a word it is a way of being, a way of treating others and a way to show Grace.  We can live a prayerful life without being pained constantly.

How do I use it today?  I try to live the life my own dad taught me.  My dad taught me respect for the "Father".  To this day, even though I know their is nothing left of my youth or my dad, he died many years ago, I try not to depart from His ways.  He taught me that to be human is to error.  To be a woman is to be, hummm... what we think of ourselves.  To have self respect.  To trust ourselves and to make our No's be NO.  I know many of us say no, but at his insistence we summit.  There is that fine line when we say no and then submit, some of us so that life will be well within others, or ourselves because we just don't know any better.  But like Oprah says you "When you know better you do better."  It is my favorite quote.  Grace is something we all should learn in a marriage. What the place mentioned above taught me...is life continues no matter what, we try, the "Lord" will help.  He will never leave us nor beseech us.  Right?

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Within a marriage, relationship or in event planning, grace expressions of being.  Many times things don't go as they should but the goal is to work with other to accomplish it the best we can.  Some event planners yell, some get angry.  My coping mechanism is to "Breath" and get quiet.  To speak in quite tones to the workers who are already stressed.  "Grace" when things go wrong is so much better then adding stress to the situation.  Within a marriage it could be the one thing that puts out the fire of anger.  It is the one thing that has stopped the feelings of regret.  Words said in anger are not easily forgotten.  You through grace in them and the words no longer exist.  The husband, the wife, the child, then has to consider what their words and actions mean to the person they are showing them too.

We can persecute, we can remember all of the bad things, however what would happen if in that situation you show GRACE?  It doesn't solve all the problems and it won't event prevent them.  What it will do, is let you live in peace with yourself.  Within  a marriage living at peace with oneself is half the battle.

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