The Importance of Timing Holiday Parties with Ex (PART 2)

Hi there Diamond Glamour Girls;

As you know as ex's we get blamed for things we didn't do. I think it is self reflection of what they see in themselves. Kind of like the song "Trojan's in my Head". Men, women, people as a whole hope for things that are not in "His" will for our lives. My advice is to be the best you can be no matter what.

Injury, Abuse, Lack of Respect, it all happens, our goal is to have self respect! If you know that you did the best you could with want you have then that is the best. Do not fall victim consistently. Call them on the behavior and continue to love the person as best you can.

Timing is important. If they are abusing call for help right away. If you felt abused do not let them put even a hand on you.

Here are my helpful tips.

1. Shake hands with your ex. Set your boundaries.
2. Speak highly of him in public. (What happened in the court, stays in the court and between the both of you and your attorneys.) If your children on of adult age and they want to know allow them to read the court paper. I assure you after they read the court papers they will think both their parents are stupid.
3. Mingle will all the people at the party. If it is your way to visit with your children assure the children you can be respectful to them. Put your children's feeling first.
4. Catch up on the things you have missed in their life throughout the year. Use the time to enjoy your children. The meaning of the Holidays and the good times you once had as a family.
5. Allow the healing to begin. Do not point out a person's fault. You both have one thing in common and that is what is best for your children.
6. Self respect is part of saying I know and trust my Gods perfect plan for my life. Although I tried my best in this marriage it didn't work out. Therefore, I trust my children love me and they are the best the marriage created.
7. Here is where timing comes into play. You know best were your limits are. If you hit the place within you were their is to much pain, you have the right to say so.
You have the right to ask your ex to leave if it is your party. They have the same right if you are at their party. If your children are of driving age ask them to drive separate cars, therefore they too can choose to leave the party if it get to painful for them. Celebration are about the joy of the season in your life. Make it a happy one. Make it a hopeful one. YOU ARE ALWAYS A FAMILY. DIVORCE IS FOR THE ADULTS. PARENTS DO NOT DIVORCE THEIR CHILDREN. THEY ARE ALWAYS YOUR CHILDREN. IT'S JUST A NEW BEGINNING!

PEACE! MERRY CHRISTMAS! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!


- Posted by MK Pure Diamond Events using Word Press on my IPad.

KISS (Keep It Simple Sister) The working Women and Fashion

One of the things most women have in common is fashion.  We love cloths, not for the reason one might think.  Things seem like one thing when they are another.  Today’s women have to be smarter than the other generations before them, so we think…  The truth is women are supposed to mentor one another.  Men are taught to go for things at all cost, but women are taught compassion, understanding, and wisdom.  Now what role does this play in the workplace?

I was reading the “In Style” the other day when I realized some things do not change throughout time.  Women love being respected for their work.  Cloths have a say in the perception of what we are trying to say.  In my younger years I loved color bright and beautiful.  Men confuse color with women wanting attention.  Don’t ask me why it just was, they think if we dress a certain way we are that.  As I matured in the workplace I realized being noticed by the color I was wearing was not the best thing for my career.  I wanted respect for the work I did, not the colors I was wearing. 

This year Ann Taylor Fall 2012, has my favorite all time way of dressing.  My favorite way to dress is black and white with a pop of color.  I always found this way of dressing allowed me to go from work place to an evening meeting with will change.  It also got me respect.  Women respect one another in the workplace when one is trying to do the best work possible.  Competition is what it is, but respect comes from hard work, focusing on the things that matter most for the corporation you are working for and having your personal priorities in place.  Women supporting one another in the workplace is very important, earn the respect of your pears and you may earn the respect of person who is your supervisor.  The funny thing is there is a balance there.  Earning the respect of the pears cannot supersede your goals.  If the pear is disrespecting you then you have to call them on it.  I truly believe that when you call them on it, does it face to face and in privacy.  If it doesn’t stop then take to the supervisor.  Stand up for yourself but do it in a way you will still respect yourself.  In life, if you are battling for something you want and loose self respect, it’s not worth it.

That’s, my bit of advice…back to fashion.  Ann Taylor, this year’s collection is about sophistication and KISS mentality, Keep It Simple Sister!  She has designed collection that allows women to show off their s lines without being recycled, without being this thing….men want.   We are women with power and her collection lets other know it, without shouting it!  It is a quiet confidence.  It is here I am, I know what I am doing, and I do it to the best of my ability.  Ann Taylor collection this year has it all pearls, ribbons; scarf’s, shoes flats or heels.  It’s a business suit during the day and evening attire during the night.  The Hughes is rich, deep with wealth, richness and comfort.