What’s New? 2019

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

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Wedding Planning Planner

What’s new? In this fast pace of everything and everyone moving faster than I can imagine. I have run a race worth speaking about and I am looking forward to just that. You see technology changed the world. It hits us daily with the bloggers, the trend setters and the what’s important and what is not.

Not much different than before at the same time totally different. Why because I now too confess at how easy it is to get my hands on the information at hand. I cheat! I confess I cheat now. I cheat at instead of picking up the recipe book I look at my phone or device to look up a recipe and then I think, that’s different than I remember it. Of corse it’s different. It’s not from the book or the person who wrote the book that I am looking up. How silly is that to look in a new place for something old.

Non-the-less that’s what I think is happening to many of us. We decluttered ourselves away. We want that old familiar person, recipe, favorite thing, however we are using a new way. What is it with humans that we need the comfort of old. We need to feel like people care more than a DM or Text Message. That doesn’t fill the void of being near someone we love.

We read all the time how so and so broke up their marriage over a text message. Now we have photographic evidence that her husband is having an affair, his wife is seeing someone new. What do we do, snap a photograph and text message it. Rather that going to that person and telling them the truth. We don’t want to be involved. We want to win in the race of life. Not understanding how painful listening all the time to the yelling can be.

I still am amazed at the insensitivity this new age has brought us. We are in a new age when we think faster is better. Is it really. I was recently confronted with the reality of my childhood friend who has been married many times allowed her family to have a sister-cousin. It has taken me several years to understand what that meant. Being of a different religion, I have no words of comprehension how how this has affect her and her believes. What makes that acceptable. Hate the sin, not the sinner I have been told. We all have sins of choice. Addictions we battle within ourselves. Who am I to judge, I ask myself constantly. Yet, does my opinion matter if I gave it. It has been years and I have been avoiding talking with her. Mainly, because I don’t have words to express what I feel without sounding like a judgmental bitch. I wan’t her to know I love 💕 her. Yet, I am, angry that she allowed this to happen. I am also angry at myself for feeling the way I do. We all fall short. So who am I? Who am I to have such strong opinion that I want to yell at her spouse! I can’t, so I don’t, therefore I won’t get involved in my childhood friends marriage. That has left us with pleasantries during the Christmas holidays. Short little somethings that fit onto a postcard style Christmas 🎄 Card.

What’s new in your 2019?

If I keep it all business then this is what I would share. I am close to finishing my second book. It looks like social media is playing a part in telling me what they like. This makes my second guessing myself, so much less and I am happy to report that it is a slow going. Event planning continues to be on the cutting edge of technology mixed with business. Cookie cutter weddings still continue to be a way to cut back cost of weddings. Weddings in San Diego are averaging $35,000/year. I have added a new service to my business. It’s a business that can travel wherever the client want to pay for me to plan their event. This makes things interesting.

I hope your mid-year 2019 check is doing great things for you!

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1960's Weddings

The 1960's Wedding

 The age of freedom, peace rally's, writting to soldiers, complaints about the government and the treatment of our young men in "Vietnam" woman had a strong voice.  

Woodstock was countered by revival that was countered by independence, individuality. Parents yelled at their children publically, drug education began.  Overall people tried to help others in trying times.  The introduction to humor in Wedding entered with cake toppers. It was a time when you had to speak out on abuse.

 We were all looking at TV 

more that we should have. Weddings are still the foundation of a relations. Witnesses stood up for their couples in church or in front of a judge.  Court weddings in front of a justice of the peace excited. 

      Okay the 60's was more liberal than the 50's.

Woman began to be known for owning business. Decor and venues were becoming more non traditional. 

                                              

                        

  Modern 60's want to have a home, the tradition of a wedding and the reality that it leads to home purchase of a home. 

                        Sophistication is the best part about choosing an era wedding. To find the venue and the class you are looking for. It is part of you and your financing talking through the era. There are choices and colors to be made.  You can use choices from your favorite fabric or wallpaper or your wedding invitation.  

 This era show the simplistic approach along with whimsy is a fun way to begin a married life. 

Composing looks that go together well, help to put the whole wedding together.

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MEN OF INTEGRITY (PART 6)

 Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Last time we peeked in on Love and B we realized they were in the beginning of discovering what true integrity is.  For some it is the beginning of a change in their being so profound it supersedes all else. True integrity goes beyond the bounds of marriage and into the individual beings beliefs.  It is not just for men it affects men and women.  Men are held to a higher standard, because that is what the bible says.  However, women are held to a high standard of integrity. Both sexes are seen as having an accountability before God.  As individuals and as a couple.  Communication is the key to a good relationship, along with "Love".  The most important is GRACE.  We are imperfect people, no one can meet the high standards set before without understanding and help from others and each other.

Love was rather quite on the way home. B was feeling a little overwhelmed.  They both felt they had integrity, however that talk they were left insecure.

Love finally broke the silence.  B want did you think about what Pastor B said in his talk? Rather intense, right?

B:  I thought we were pretty good about integrity.  I mean we don't cheat, drink alcohol, do drugs.  We have friends were honest, we don't steal. His integrity in incorruptible. The Titus scripture is an interesting one.  What do you think?  I think when we get home I will look it up the word integrity to know what it means in the English language.

Love:  I think it was rather intense, something I definitely have to keep trying to strive for.  Something we all need help achieving. It is letting our YESES, be YES and our NO be NO! 

B: I understand that but sometimes when I am with you and my girlfriends and you guys want to do something.  You ask me and ask me until I am beat down and can't say NO anymore. That means we have to accept the first No people say as NO.

In that time we they both arrived home.  B went straight for the dictionary. She looked it up in several visions. Love listen to this...Integrity 

1.  a firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values incorruptibility.

2.  an unpaired condition 

3.  the quality or stat of being complete or undivided

Okay I feel better.  Not like I thought but not as difficult as I thought.  The problem I see is getting people to understand my No's mean NO.  What do you think?  Love, looked and B gave her a big hug and said, I can help with that.

With that thought they both felt better about their meeting with Pastor B.  She knew he battled some of the same problems in life.  They both were on the same path trying to get people to realize they may be young but they were striving for integrity that only they two knew.  The trust grew a little more.

Dear Journal (Part 5 Meeting with Pastor B.)

Hi there Diamond Glamour Girls:

Dear Journal,
Today is the day I met with my pastor and the other person he wants.  Who ever that is. 

Dear Journal,

I have so much to write down my mind is thinking faster then I can write.  I got to church feeling nervous,  filled with anticipation. of what this conversation was going to be about.  Pastor B was his usual caring self.  He asked me how I was feeling, how the planning was coming along.  The he introduced me to the lady standing in the room, Lee.  We both said the usual " Nice to meet you."  Pastor B asked us both to sit down.  We did.

 He began by asking, if I was wondering what he wanted to talk to me about.

 I laughed, jokingly said "no," and then  said "It has had me extremely prayerful.  Did I do something wrong?  I feel a little like I am in the principles office."

"Principles off? When have you ever been called to the principles office?" He laughed.

I started telling him the story of when I was called into the principals office and then realized I was rambling in my words and not letting him speak.  I thought to myself (I am so happy I am speaking with my pastor otherwise anyone else could,would just be upset with me for rambling with my words.  When I am anticipating something I tend to speak of random things so I can just settle myself down into feeling comfortable with the person I am with. I know I tend to want to be respectful sometimes to much.

He sat there patiently listening to me.

I want to tell you we are now in the place in pre-marital counseling were we separate the couple and begin with individualcounseling.  In individual counseling I will be meeting with you and Ree.   

What will be doing?  I asked.

We will be discussing subjects that are sensitive areas to a marriage.  Ree will be here to help, she has been married for a long time and my assistant for a long time so she understands the sensitivities of women role in a marriage.  She also understands the role of a Pastor in marriage counseling.  She will be an advocate for both of us. During this time we will be discussing things like a women's role in marriage, a man's role in marriage, finances, when two become one, the sexual relationship and the ideal of what God indented.  You know all of this will is in the word.  It is truly covered in the bible. Please bring your bible each week.  As we go through and discuss Gods best for a women.  The role Jesus should play in a marriage.  You know that if you are living together you must live in separate homes during this time.  We will be discussing many topics and I think you will enjoy this time of prayer, education and growth in the "Word."  We will also be introducing to you all the people who are involved in putting together your wedding.  Our wedding coordinator and the other members of the body who serve in this ministry.  Pastor B concluded with saying I don't want you to worry, it is a time of blessing you as a women and as a bride.  

I was thankful it was just an information meeting.  I wasn't really prepared for how detailed Pastor B is.  Lee seemed nice, but then again everyone is nice in my church so I never expect anything less.  I did get to explain that we were really living together, but... Pastor B stopped me and said he already knew, that need to stop as well.

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Dear Jounal (Part 3 The Struggle of a Bride)

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Dear Journal;

I am so excited, got a promotion at work!  My boss thinks that because I am getting married I am more serious about work.  I explained that I have always been serious about work and have never let him or the company down, but somehow he equates me getting married with me being more responsible and mature.  How he got that idea I don't know.  I think it is a little sexiest, but I am not sure. He has never made any advances or said anything that I consider a violation.  I have to share it with my fiance and see what her thinks.  My boss said to me "For promotion cometh neither from the east , nor from the west, nor from the south..."  Then he offered me a promotion!  A promotion, now I even have more responsibilities.  More money is good I can help my parent pay for the wedding.


Dear Journal;

I shared what my boss said with my fiance and he says I am just being stupid.  I quoted what he said: "For promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south..."  My fiance smiled: He thinks I am making a big deal out of nothing.  What? I asked?  How can you say that.  It bothers me to know that just because I am getting married, suddenly changes me into something different.  Like I am not going to work the same. or that suddenly my work will be better.  That's stupid! I am still the same women.  Now, I am thinking I will be around two stupid men all the time.  One that thinks that a married woman is a better worker than a signal woman and the other one who thinks I didn't make a valid point.  Which is it?  Am I a stupid women, or a professional who gets thing done.  I can't be both. Can't wait to discuss this in marital counseling class.  Glad we are taking a year to plan the wedding.  I think I will mention it to the wedding planner to see if she has ever heard of such a thing.  I am not sure of what I am doing now?  What I thought was good may not be and what I thought was bad may not be?


Dear Journal;

After calling several wedding planners and comparing one with the other I finally decided to meet with one.  Excited to show her all the pictures I have collected throughout the years.  How I want this wedding to look and don't care about anything but making it my day!  The phone had a messaged, Pastors secretary called.  What could she want.  Will call her back tomorrow.  I am too busy today, have to get all my ideas together for the wedding planner.  Do you think it is anything like the movie?  Do I take him with me on the meeting?  Will ask him, but ever since he proposed and I try to talk about anything to do with the wedding all he says is:"What ever you want dear.  Just leave me out of all the details.  I will show up on the wedding day. That's good enough, right?"  I called her back again and asked her if I should bring my fiance.  She said yes.  The first meeting should be between the three of us.  She might have her assistant there, it all depends on what else needs to get done for other brides. 


Dear Journal;

First thing this morning I called the secretary back.  She says Pastor wants to met with me without my fiance, he promises there will be another women in the room so don't worry.  He has something he really wants to talk with me about.  But doesn't want me alone when I hear. (Panic, I feel my stomach all in knots. ) His secretary said to me" Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the is its own trouble."  What could he have to say to me that my fiance can't hear.  Why would my Pastor be afraid to be in a room alone with me?  That's weird!

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Old Friend's New Life (Transition to Couplehood)

A new beginning always beginning, starting with communication, known expectations, and understanding of what you are trying to achieve as a couple.  The list should be reviewed every year, change according to what has been achieved add new things of what you would like to achieve.  For the first year here is a list of 12 things you can do to ease the transition into couplehood.

It's after the wedding, you on your honeymoon, all the two of you can talk about was how wonderful the wedding was, how great your wedding planner was and how all the wedding plans came true.  Your guest were happy, you were happy you had fun.  Now it is all about the future and how wonderful your life will be together.  What is it really going to be like? 

A real dose of reality is when you get on the airplane to come home.  For some couples they come home to an overwhelming since of ....what would I call it?  Reality?  Panic?  The honeymoon is over what now?  For other couple it is more like the romance continues and they continue to grow their relations.  They were friends before the honeymoon they are friends afterwords.

Getting home from a honeymoon to all the day to day things can become somewhat challenging so here is a list of items you can do to help you adjust to your new lifestyle. Ease the stress of the everyday grind.  Back to work, back to life.  It's a little like going on vacation, everyone wants to know everything.  No matter what happened it is best to say wonderful things about your new spouse.  No need to open up the door for trouble.  Speaking highly of your new husband or wife helps you both work out any difference between you,  and keep it just between you.

1.  Find a place to live, before the honeymoon.  The best way is to find a place neither of you have lived in before so that their are no arguments about how to do things.  No reminders of past loves, etc. You are both starting with the same playing fields.

2.  Unwrap gifts that are delivered prior to the wedding.

3.  Send a thank you card to the people the gifts are from. (These can be ordered at the same time your invitations are order with from Mr. & Mrs. or Love, Mr & Mrs.  whatever the saying your would like) 
Then all you have to do is write thank you for the ......  If you are having an opening up the wedding gifts together party after the honeymoon, do it in your new place.
                                                                                   

4. Be sure to make a list of all gifts and person who gave it to you so you have a reference when you see them and they ask you did you like the gift we gave? Highly recommend you keep the list close for the first year. If you know you are going to see the people who you can refer to it prior to seeing them.
                                                                                                        

5. Try to move all your items that you want to keep to your new joint residence a month prior to your wedding. Decide who is going to live there.

6. Live in your own residence as long as possible, a week prior to the wedding the bride or groom should move into the new residence.  This way only one resident will have to be closed after your honeymoon.                                                                                                           

7. Donate any item that is the littlest argument (or big ones for that matter).  You are both starting a new life and if "he didn't like" or "she didn't like it.  It doesn't belong".

8. Your new life together is about the two of you.  The first year should be all about you two and planning for a life together.

9.  Get your finances in order.  Set goals.  (Met with a financial planner, insurance person to help you achieve your goals.)
I know this sounds silly but if you have you want children consider opening up a savings account.  There is a cost to having children, if you didn't have to spend the savings then it is a nice beginning to a college fund.  After the first is born do the same for the next one.  It doesn't have to be allot each month just something your financial planner can help with the details.  You do not have to be rich to have a financial planner.



10. Know and trust that transitions are normal, be patient, kind with one another.  The first year can be the reminder of all future anniversaries so make it fun.

11.  Slowly invite your friends over to see your new home, sometimes friends have difficulties with changes in you and the new you.  Know that this is also normal.  Try to love them through it, if they can't adjust then they will choose to fade out of your life.  Don't fight about it.  Your true friends are truly that, they will remain friends as you transition into marriedhoodness. 

12.  Don't forget to take time to be an individual.  There might be things you both love doing together but it is okay to have private interest.  As long as you are not violating the marriage vows then, enjoy the company of your friends.

                                                            

Weddings on a Budget

San Diego is the number one place for destination weddings. For brides on a budget its blue skies and ocean make a perfect backdrop for saying ones vows. When an engaged couple is thinking about their wedding, wedding locations, are a couple of tips.

1. Find the things you both enjoy. Whatever it is earthy types, city types, if you’re a pink girl. It is what you and your fiancé like doing together. Then look for locations. Parks, beaches and historical places tend to be the least expense venue, just the cost of a permit and you on your way to having a beautiful location on a budget; however you will have to add the cost of rentals.
2. One of the things I love doing with the brides on a budget is I take them to the floral mart. This is an early appoint usually between 6:30 or 7:00 to see the greatest solution of flower. Floral vendors start as early as 4 am. Sometimes floral farmers also own florists stores, since they grow the flowers they usually have great ideas to arrange them. I even had one bride who had a lot of friends, we predesigned the table décor and they put the arrangements together the day of the wedding, however this is rare. The cost of the budget went from $10,000 to $300 for all the table décor. Good friends pay off big for weddings when you can get them to help.
3. Photographer is the areas were I do not recommend taking a shortcut or paying less. These are your lifelong memories and they can either make the wedding day fun or a long day, by interrupting the schedule. Just make sure of a couple of things. 1. The photographer must be unobtrusive. 2. He takes as many of the family photos prior to the wedding. All the bride and bridesmaid photos, bride and her family, all the groom and grooms men, groom with his family photos. If the photographer has an assistant it works better. Add in extra time between the ceremony and reception, where you can then take the whole wedding party photos. Let your guest mingle at the reception while you do this part.
4. If at all possible hire an event planner. They have experience in this matter and their goal should be to take the burden off the couple and family and let you enjoy the day.