I Look A Mess I Don't Have Anything To Hide

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls,

As woman we fight all kinds of battle. Some for ourselves to stay content and give thanksgiving in everything the God brings our way, others just because we are selfish enough to want to live a life that God intended us to live. Most of all we fight the battle because this is what we are told we must do.

There is no battle when you are signal, other than the one to have your own name, reputation, honor in your own body, earned respect of others, in your business life and in your personal life. What greater battle is there than in knowing the truth. I do not fight when I wake up in the morning for I know the truth in my life. I fight to be the woman God intended me to by. Not my mothers child, the woman he raised me up to be.

Number one on Googles list of woman who look a mess.Did someone care enough to ask her why?

Sometimes, we don't look like what we are suppose to look like. We run to the grocery store for something and we run into a friend. Wow, they say, you don't look like yourself. I laugh and think to myself what is it that you were expecting? You see me on Sunday, workdays with my best forward, however on a regular day when I am just myself it is unacceptable to you?  This thought runs through my mind, however I don't speak it. It is a thought not worth speaking. I think, if I were a negative person I would tell you all the things I am trying to accomplish, however I am just myself, trying to support myself. Trying to live the life I was suppose to live not the lies others want for me.

It is the truth of day to day life, we doesn't always look the way others think it should. We don't always act life others want us to. Social media, expects woman to look a certain way, our children expect us "mom" to look and act a certain way, movies portray woman without faults. The truth is we suffer from all types of life circumstances. We fluctuate the ups and down's of life know their is a greater purpose to our life then what you expect. We woman don't have to look any certain way. God describes Eve, however he doesn't describe her physical appears other than to say she came from the rib of Adam. Sometimes, I hear what you say, however the freedom is knowing what is best, God's best for my life. Not your life, my life. If I was a preacher I would tell you God wants all His people to know that Jesus Christ is Lord. That you are saved by grace and not by works. That you are a believer. When you accept the fact that there is John 3:16. The goal is to believe everyday, act that way and accept grace. Giving thanks always. I might not look like you expect, however I believe I am doing the best I can.

However, I am not a preacher, therefore I can only ask you the next time you see me, don't judge by my appearance. Ask me as a person how am I doing and if you really want to know and care for me I will tell you. Otherwise just say hello and be on your way. Only my true friends, family need to know the reality of my life. That is the difference between a relationship and a gossip.

What Does It All Mean?

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls:

Guess, what I was at the gym this morning and the same TV Program was on "Sex in the City". Normally I plug into my music in order to get into the zone.  Again I plugged into the program on TV as I walked my 30 minutes.  I laugh again at the memories it brought back of my own relation with my then fiance and husband of more than 38 and now my best friend after divorce.

I thought of my event business and how I was hired to plan a funeral after party. That was a challenge for me. I knew I didn't really want to plan this event and gracefully decline. He insisted.  It ended up being one of the most amazing moments to know that so many people could show up to celebrate the life of a women. A woman respected by others, a woman knew she was loved, and I wonder how much she really knew about how much she was loved. It was such a peaceful, joyous, worthy of talking about event. Although I never talk about my clients by name, I do talk about them with the caliber of respect they deserve. She was loved and her guest where so wonderful to our staff that I was pleased how great the event was. It was one of those events, I told the client I wasn't equipped to plan, however their grace allowed it to an event without fault.

Anyway, the story was more about new relationships and how during the time of getting to know each other, we experiment with each others desires, likes and interest.  I like carry was all about living a life in the city. I don't think I had ever gone camping (mountain) or ever even thought about it til I met my husband.  We grew to love the outdoors and all the fun that it brought, however I am still more in love with the Encinitas lifestyle than I will ever be with mountain or country lifestyle.  The laughter comes in when a man is telling you things they like and we as woman laugh or is frighten, we call our best friends to join us at the activity, we are just not sure of or don't understand the man. My husband always had a great sense of humor. I wish now I would of watched this series when it was happening. Relationships in the beginning are both humorous and difficult.  Having children adds another blessing and it's whole set of circumstances. You add teenagers and all their friends it changes again. You divorce and starting over creates it's own challenges.

He showed her that the best friend he has in the cabin was a squirrel, implying he was a little lonely, or just a little strange. He was funny as heck trying to find her compassion, or sympathy point. Her sympathy for was was not there. She like many of found it difficult to believe that his best friend was a squirrel. He couldn't find it and she didn't know exactly what to do. There is a point in all of us "women" when we can no longer stand the cuteness of Ren and have to call for support from others.  We might love the man however we don't have to love his Ren.

Relationships are this funny balance of love, patience and a series of "No's that need to be respected. Woman are able to love the person and not want to be with his Ren. The wisdom of knowing the person, and knowing to love yourself as much is a fine balance in a relationship. It is knowing that some females are different then others, it's a matter of finding the right friends, the ones that believe in you, as a friend, woman, sister, and most of all your ability to succeed as a woman.  With integrity to the point that you would share painful information with her if it meant saving her life. Integrity in business, in our checking accounts, in our ability to life a productive life.  Carrie had that.  If you can become that type of woman you can then create a circle of friends worthy of your companionship. The scripture comes to mind that

The difficult thing is as woman we don't all grow up with "Fathers, Dad's " that Ren us. Most of us don't like it in our bodies and we don't life that way on a daily bases.  In the workplace it is known as sexual harassment. In business it is known as a business person against you not for you.  Therefore "Trust has to be developed. Truth has to be established and love definitely has to be a part of. In my business the workplace doesn't always look like an office. It is where ever I am planning an event. It might be the beach or a venue, or event Barnes and Nobles, while I am writing this blog.

If you like this blog, please click on a sponsor, tell a friend, book an appointment or call to just talk about the biz.  I appreciate your thoughts on this or any blog I write.  Therefore, feel free to leave a comment.  Maybe, I should ask a question:  What do you think sexual harassment is?

Honeymoon

 I asked myself…what I know about HONEYMOONS.  I finally realized I know nothing.  On my honeymoon my husband and I called home to see if our new home was ready to move in when his sister said whatever she said, that caused our honeymoon to be cut short.  Who leaves their honeymoon early?  Honestly, we did.  Today I realize that the Honeymoon set a foundation for the relationship.  It is one of those moments in time that when things get difficult it is something you booth have to talk about it.

Here are something’s I would do different if I could.  This is not meant as a complaint, more like if I knew then what I know now.  The wedding and honeymoon are a reflection of the people in the relationship.  What is important to the both of you?  If you are people who like being with each other and want to shut out the world then do so.  Maybe a quiet, intimate wedding and honeymoon is what is perfect for you.

If you are a person who is budget conscience, then plan a small wedding and spend most of the money on the honeymoon.  It is a time to make all your dreams, plans, thoughts of what you both hope for in the future.  It is a time when you should both be equally having fun.  Not one better than the other.  The honeymoon should be a place you both should enjoy spending time together.

Know if you are the type that has a large budget, go for it.  Go Big!  If you go Big on the Wedding, then you have to Go Big on the HONEYMOON.  Why? Hum!  The honeymoon is where you booth start your real life together.  The wedding is the dream.  It is beautiful, lovely and should be everything you both ever wanted.

HONEYMOON, have traditionally been about what the man wants.  That is no longer true.  Men and women desire time well spent on their honeymoons.  Imagine a large wedding spending thousands of dollars and then coming home to a flat.  That how the future thoughts of one another will be, flat, she will blame you, you will blame him, etc.  Big weddings need to have Big Honeymoons so your high expectations of one another can continue.

Setting expectations:  What are their expectations to be set in a HONEYMOON?  We have wedding expectations, why not honeymoon expectations.  How will he perform?  Right!  Men wonder this about woman all the time.  Does your man wear the right lingerie to light the flame within you?  Does he expect you to wear the lingerie and do all the work to get him aroused?  If he expects this from you, are you not supposed to expect it from him?  Equally yoked right?  Expectations of one another are set by so many of social expectations that I make my clients have time to speak to one another of their desires.  No, I am not there when they are talking about it.  But I do help them find help if they are having difficulties talking about it because family members have their expectations as well.  To be able to discuss, communicate with one another on expectations for ones future is the beginning of a relationship that works for both parties.  If you can’t talk about the “HONEYMOON” the relationship part of it all, you just might not be ready to get married.  The “HONEYMOON” is something a couple should be able to discuss throughout their whole marriage.  Without it the marriage is questioned.  Mainly it is questioned within the couple, when the couple is made to doubt about themselves then the world (family, friends) question.  Mainly, because we speak of this to our friends trying to correct it, if you can talk to each other about intimate things at the beginning of the marriage you should be able to throughout your marriage.  You can always start the conversation with remember our “Honeymoon” discussions.  We each have an obligation to ourselves, and our partners.  In Christian marriages it is to our partner and then us.
                                               

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