What Does It All Mean?

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls:

Guess, what I was at the gym this morning and the same TV Program was on "Sex in the City". Normally I plug into my music in order to get into the zone.  Again I plugged into the program on TV as I walked my 30 minutes.  I laugh again at the memories it brought back of my own relation with my then fiance and husband of more than 38 and now my best friend after divorce.

I thought of my event business and how I was hired to plan a funeral after party. That was a challenge for me. I knew I didn't really want to plan this event and gracefully decline. He insisted.  It ended up being one of the most amazing moments to know that so many people could show up to celebrate the life of a women. A woman respected by others, a woman knew she was loved, and I wonder how much she really knew about how much she was loved. It was such a peaceful, joyous, worthy of talking about event. Although I never talk about my clients by name, I do talk about them with the caliber of respect they deserve. She was loved and her guest where so wonderful to our staff that I was pleased how great the event was. It was one of those events, I told the client I wasn't equipped to plan, however their grace allowed it to an event without fault.

Anyway, the story was more about new relationships and how during the time of getting to know each other, we experiment with each others desires, likes and interest.  I like carry was all about living a life in the city. I don't think I had ever gone camping (mountain) or ever even thought about it til I met my husband.  We grew to love the outdoors and all the fun that it brought, however I am still more in love with the Encinitas lifestyle than I will ever be with mountain or country lifestyle.  The laughter comes in when a man is telling you things they like and we as woman laugh or is frighten, we call our best friends to join us at the activity, we are just not sure of or don't understand the man. My husband always had a great sense of humor. I wish now I would of watched this series when it was happening. Relationships in the beginning are both humorous and difficult.  Having children adds another blessing and it's whole set of circumstances. You add teenagers and all their friends it changes again. You divorce and starting over creates it's own challenges.

He showed her that the best friend he has in the cabin was a squirrel, implying he was a little lonely, or just a little strange. He was funny as heck trying to find her compassion, or sympathy point. Her sympathy for was was not there. She like many of found it difficult to believe that his best friend was a squirrel. He couldn't find it and she didn't know exactly what to do. There is a point in all of us "women" when we can no longer stand the cuteness of Ren and have to call for support from others.  We might love the man however we don't have to love his Ren.

Relationships are this funny balance of love, patience and a series of "No's that need to be respected. Woman are able to love the person and not want to be with his Ren. The wisdom of knowing the person, and knowing to love yourself as much is a fine balance in a relationship. It is knowing that some females are different then others, it's a matter of finding the right friends, the ones that believe in you, as a friend, woman, sister, and most of all your ability to succeed as a woman.  With integrity to the point that you would share painful information with her if it meant saving her life. Integrity in business, in our checking accounts, in our ability to life a productive life.  Carrie had that.  If you can become that type of woman you can then create a circle of friends worthy of your companionship. The scripture comes to mind that

The difficult thing is as woman we don't all grow up with "Fathers, Dad's " that Ren us. Most of us don't like it in our bodies and we don't life that way on a daily bases.  In the workplace it is known as sexual harassment. In business it is known as a business person against you not for you.  Therefore "Trust has to be developed. Truth has to be established and love definitely has to be a part of. In my business the workplace doesn't always look like an office. It is where ever I am planning an event. It might be the beach or a venue, or event Barnes and Nobles, while I am writing this blog.

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President's Day Weekend

Hi there, Diamond Glamour Girls;

Another Presidents Weekend, for some it was full of joy, laughter, enjoying family and friends. BB Q's burning and beach picnic, this year you might just be by the TV watching the Olympics. Those people they enjoy company with, for others a weekend of solitude. Where laughter is listening to others or watching TV. What is it that life has to offer you?  What is it that you want out of life.

You know I was working out today and the place I go to work out has more televisions then I have ever seen before.  The funniest part in the women's locker room they are all on the food network, one famous chef or another.  I always wonder the same thing. Don't they know, I am here to exercise the goal is to stay away from food. I laugh to myself because the other woman are there for the same reason.

Anyway as I was saying I was working out on the tread meal, that endless exercise that takes you no where but burns aloft of calories if done right.  The TV was on, the famous TV Series "Sex in the City" was on and I realized as I am watching it that I missed that whole era. I missed it in my real life and on TV.

 I had girlfriends we went out, but none of us did that whole who can sleep with whom and who was better.  We went dancing and made a pact that none of us would let the other either get drunk or leave with a man.  The whole sex (ST D's) was to big for me.  Had to many friends get ill from this reality and we all wanted to be respected. Have happy children and be able to say we did our best in life without sleeping our way to the top.  The reality of having a high school friend die during high school shock many of us into the reality that life is short, it is about how to best use the time on earth.  It is a gift.

I still am friends with many of those woman and although our lives are not perfect, we do know it wasn't because we didn't try out best or love enough.  It is because sometimes even the best of relationships get intruded by past issues that have no business in the future.  Is there anything different that I would do? Would I change the man I married? or the children I had? The house I lived in?  The parent's that gave be birth? The mom that remarried? No, like many I see life as our ability to cope, do the best we can with what we have. It was never my desire to "Make it Big" or be someone I am not.  It was this woman's desire, like many others to have integrity, to be able to be real with people and have them be real back. To own a home of my own, to have children who love me and knew I did the best I could. Knowing that they have both good and bad memories like the rest of the people on earth.

Event, wedding, meeting planning started right away when I was in college and later grew into my profession for a corporation. I still am amazed at what a blessing it is to help other create their day.  I think that is why I love it so much. It is never about me.  It is about my client, the bride, the groom, the parents, the business person, the dad who wants a special moment with his daughter to kiss her on the cheek as he gives her away because he know it will be the last time she will truly be only his.  Yes, she might be a grown up woman, but she is "his" little girl. She will be a changed woman charging another mans name..  Or the moment, the corporations, plans for a year to create a special moment to say thank you to it's employees who have worked with the company mission in mind and met and exceeded the corporations expectations.  How about the board of directors who work diligently for the business without pay, and are treated to a weekend away or a dinner with their wives.

What a different life focus the "Sex in the City" had compared to my girlfriends and I.  I laugh to myself, thinking we all dated, married, some divorced, some didn't. Some married men 10 years younger that them, others married men 10 years older.  The one thing we had in common was the reality to made a decision not to let sex be the driving force of out life. To have goals, set them, and make daily decisions knowing we are the best we can be when we are our own best friend.

On this Presidents Day, may your life be blessed, Full of Bread, your baskets overflowing with with fruit, your families filled with love, your children safe, you home Blessed. That is the American Dream.

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