Have you ever wondered why we as women always get told we change our minds too much? Have you ever had a man tell you "You don't know what you are doing? Have you ever had a man tell you that was the best night I have ever had never to call you again? Or not let you feel what you should during sex? Pre-ejaculaltion or selfishness. Have you ever had a man tell you one thing and do another and then accuse you of being the one who does it? Your getting married...you want to know your man. As you know B's appointment was cancelled. She went home and while waiting for Love to come home her friends called to talk about the wedding shower. The wedding discussion turned to the "big" topic SEX. Hit her with things she really didn't want to dicuss.
Here goes ladies and yes this is a blog for ladies.
B listen as her friend talked.....Sometimes we need to be educated. Yes we can know all the scripture in the bible but if our man changes our life changes and if we don't know how to fend or defend we loose. Our lives are to precious in His sight to loose that. Here is some of the knowledge I have found along with some research. No person is perfect, if at all possible show Grace and Forgiveness. (exception- a violent situation, verbal, emotional, physical, spiritual) GET PROFESSIONAL HELP. (Disclaimer: I am not a professional phycologist, or a pastor, preacher.) My education on this subject comes from personal experience, reading and overall educating parents with young children)
Pre-ejaculation (also known as pre-ejaculatory fluid preseminal fuild or Cowper.fluid and colorless.) I am sure you don't need me to go into details. Some of it is a natural reaction. How they treat you when it happens it what you need to become aware of. Some men have full control while others don't.
Here is the deal. We as women are always in a situation where we will or have been mom's of men. There is that fine line between protecting them and protecting yourself. If it is a relationship, you have to protect yourself.
Reactions to pre-ejaculation can range from blaming you for the excitement to calling you names like whore. Those that are mature enough take responsibility for themselves. Woman that are mature enough take responsibility for themselves. Therefore making it a mature relationship between a couple.
If there is any type of name calling or accusations the couple should seek emotional counseling. Both people in the relationship are both not mature enough to be in a relationship. It might mean the couple is not equal in their ability to love one another.
Here are some things to think about?
1. How is the relationship with his mom? Her dad?
2. Is either person complaining about their parent (s)?
3. Can they go to that parent and ask to clear things up? If not is that parent willing to go to counseling with them to clear things up/ work things out before entering in a long term relationship with you?
4. As a couple how much can you talk about what is going on?
5. Can you talk about the pre-ejaculation?
6. Can you talk about the problem it creates or your feelings?
7. If you can not, then please get professional advice. If you talk to friends or family then all that will happen in later years when ou are married they will blame the person you wanted help for in the first place. The goal is to find someone who will help you both work together to accomplish the goals in a relationship.
8. If you have children, who is more important? The wife, the husband, the inlaws (either side ) or the children.
9. If you get pregnant is abortion accept? What if the baby is deformed?
10. As a Christian wife what role does prayer play? As a Christian man what role does prayer play in Him, wedding, leading the marriage? Does she lead?
11. How do you defend from good meaning pretencios people? In the work place. In the home. neighbors, etc.
12. Is this like one of those good meaning people or is it here to help you to get to know the person you are married?
Book of Proverbs!
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