The Importance of Timing Holiday Parties with Ex (PART 2)

Hi there Diamond Glamour Girls;

As you know as ex's we get blamed for things we didn't do. I think it is self reflection of what they see in themselves. Kind of like the song "Trojan's in my Head". Men, women, people as a whole hope for things that are not in "His" will for our lives. My advice is to be the best you can be no matter what.

Injury, Abuse, Lack of Respect, it all happens, our goal is to have self respect! If you know that you did the best you could with want you have then that is the best. Do not fall victim consistently. Call them on the behavior and continue to love the person as best you can.

Timing is important. If they are abusing call for help right away. If you felt abused do not let them put even a hand on you.

Here are my helpful tips.

1. Shake hands with your ex. Set your boundaries.
2. Speak highly of him in public. (What happened in the court, stays in the court and between the both of you and your attorneys.) If your children on of adult age and they want to know allow them to read the court paper. I assure you after they read the court papers they will think both their parents are stupid.
3. Mingle will all the people at the party. If it is your way to visit with your children assure the children you can be respectful to them. Put your children's feeling first.
4. Catch up on the things you have missed in their life throughout the year. Use the time to enjoy your children. The meaning of the Holidays and the good times you once had as a family.
5. Allow the healing to begin. Do not point out a person's fault. You both have one thing in common and that is what is best for your children.
6. Self respect is part of saying I know and trust my Gods perfect plan for my life. Although I tried my best in this marriage it didn't work out. Therefore, I trust my children love me and they are the best the marriage created.
7. Here is where timing comes into play. You know best were your limits are. If you hit the place within you were their is to much pain, you have the right to say so.
You have the right to ask your ex to leave if it is your party. They have the same right if you are at their party. If your children are of driving age ask them to drive separate cars, therefore they too can choose to leave the party if it get to painful for them. Celebration are about the joy of the season in your life. Make it a happy one. Make it a hopeful one. YOU ARE ALWAYS A FAMILY. DIVORCE IS FOR THE ADULTS. PARENTS DO NOT DIVORCE THEIR CHILDREN. THEY ARE ALWAYS YOUR CHILDREN. IT'S JUST A NEW BEGINNING!

PEACE! MERRY CHRISTMAS! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!


- Posted by MK Pure Diamond Events using Word Press on my IPad.